Thanks so much ladies for your replies Ill definately take alot of that on board. I can see things getting better with her slowly, I just think she is a bit of a challenge and hopefully by approaching this gently we will build a close loving relationship. I have the wonder weeks book on order too so am eager to see what that says too.

She does love the mobile over her changetable but cant leave her on there in case she falls off so I might get her another for the cot although I usually take her to snuggle with me if she is really distressed as cuddles in bed are her favourite thing. We coslept for a while but I found we both sleep better apart especially as she is on her tummy.

lindsaymaree I hope your DS improves for you too