Poor DD really wanted a baby sister. Well since bub is a boy, she won't be getting one . I am disappointed as much as she is but at least i understand. She can't understand that you can't just choose the gender. She keeps saying she doesn't want 2 boys, she wants a baby girl. Lately she's been saying she hates the baby boy and gets really mad about it, it breaks my heart but what can i do? She loves DS a lot and has never complained that he is a boy. I don't want her hating her new baby brother.
Oh no, that's really sad, .
I don't really have any advice, but I'm sure she will eventually come around to the idea.
Can you do something like buy her a baby girl doll or something? Or use that IYKWIM? Like, you have little dolly girl to play with now DS1 has little baby boy?
I'm just talking out of my butt, lol. GL though
Oh sweetie, just as you grieve so does she will. She doesn't understand what she's saying, she's hurt. And once she sees her baby brother for the first time she will love him. I would try and tell her you understand (so that she feels heard and because you do understand) but still explain to her that its not very nice, and that she wouldn't have liked it if someone had said that about you when you were in her tummy. Try and be gentle its hard for them to grasp, but at the same time let her know that its not nice iykwim? Poor little chook.
My daughter was exactly the same when I was pregnant with #3, a boy. I bought a gorgeous baby girl doll, and had it in my hossy bag for when she came to see us.
She cracked us all up!!! She grabbed Mason, and wouldn't let him go!!!! She sat on my bed, arms around him, and flatly refused to give him back!!!
When I really tried to take him back, she'd squeeze him tighter, saying it was her baby too.... When dad eventually got her to let him go, and was saying goodbye, she tried to take him home with her!!! I have some great photos of this Ill post if I can....
It will be very hard for your daughter to resist him once he's actually here. Good luck honey....
i agree, at 3 she wouldnt really mean what she is saying about your new baby....maybe if you start talking really positively about this new baby, how she can help, how she can be a part of its life, her attitude will change....but yeah, i dont think the crossed arms and cranky attitude will last long. As soon as she sees her lil brother, im sure she will be fighting for cuddles......
ETA: sounds like a typical 3 yr old to me.....
Good luck !
It's not an easy one. I wonder if your DD is imagining a sister who will be able to do "girly" things with her from day one? Perhaps reminding her that the baby will be a baby, and not able to play with her for a while anyway, might help? That he will just sleep and eat for the first few months etc. By the time the baby is old enough for gender to matter, your DD will love him and be used to him, so she won't worry about his gender. Best of luck hun.
Poor little poppet. I agree you should keep very positive about your new little man to your DD. I also think she could be wondering who she will play with - her brothers will play together and she'll be on her own. Maybe tell her how special its going to be that the two of you will be able to lots of lovely girly things together.
I'm sure once your new baby boy arrives she will be fine though
We went through the same thing here! But I've already got a brother I don't want another one, it took her a few weeks to understand that we can't change the baby if he's a boy he's a boy! lol
Funny how they're so determined for one or the other, my son however was extremely pleased as he wanted a brother!
hmmm it doesn't matter which way you go if you've already got one of each one will miss out!
Snoopea
How can i handle this?
. I am disappointed as much as she is but at least i understand. She can't understand that you can't just choose the gender. She keeps saying she doesn't want 2 boys, she wants a baby girl. Lately she's been saying she hates the baby boy and gets really mad about it, it breaks my heart
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