julesr- no advice here, except do in your heart what u think, you know ur bubba better than any book... i figure you can always read and such but in the end u will figure it out caz you're his mummy...
I hear ya on the bouncing on the fitball!!! i also have to do stairs!!! i call it the Eden diet regime LOL... Eden does not look even close to self settling - not that i expect her to- but like you said, she cannot completely shut down... very easily distracted, will use any excuse to stay awake...
I'll be watching this thread to see any ideas people give you.... I hope u come up with some ideas as CC will prolly be so hard for you if u dont want to do it...