Its not getting any better - we need help!

Trill - I had a quick google and nah, that doesn't look like it. It does look like its all swollen up though, and just isn't improving with nappy cream - so we are guessing its a fungal type thing. She doesn't appear to be in any pain from it though?

Snacks - funny you should mention sleep apnoea - we thought she had that when she was smaller because the breathing alarm kept on going off all the time, and there wasn't anything wrong with the alarm, she would just stop breathing. Interesting.

Marcellus - haha that would have been a laugh!!!

Michelle - she's popped her first molars through, now has the eye teeth and 2 years to go. So we're nearly there :rolleyes:

Thanks everyone for your support, I'm not feeling nearly as dead as I did yesterday. Plus DS hasn't done a poo on the carpet today, so its a million times better than what yesterday was already!!

Big hugs honey... I too would steer clear of Phenergan - it is not to be used for kids under 2. It can depress their respiratory system - & has been linked to not very nice outcomes. As someone else said it can also have the opposite affect and wind them up like tops!
Sedation of kids isn't something that I would suggest. :hug:

Trillian has given some good suggestions their re the bottom rash. Darling I hope this all settles down soon - you must be so doggone tired. I am telling ya I wish you were still close and I could help you practically. (not right now as I am as sick as a dog myself! :redface:).

Big cuddles... :hug:

Has she had hand foot & mouth before? When DS had that he had horrid bad nappy rash (though it wasn't blistery at all)

Ummm no... she hasn't had HF & M. DS did when he was younger, but from memory, that was when she was still safe in the belly.

I havent noticed any blisters on her feet - and thats where he had the majority of his :think:

ETA - I'd take a pic to get opinions, but its all over her uh.. lips, so probably shouldn't post a pic like that on the internet.. LOL

:hug: grrrr to sleep deprivation!!!

I can only suggest using Lulu's RR in the bath and we used to use a lavender spray in Matilda's room before bed. I don't know if it worked, but it made me feel better.

Miss M had an adverse reaction to phenergen. It didn't just make her hypo, it made her aggressive. It was horrible... we were on a flight to the US for 14 hours and well... I wouldn't wish it upon anyone.

Hi!

i know that lavender (as mentioned above) can help relax - make sure its an expensive one as they generlly are pure...

Do you think she is actually tired? Is she active during the day? Maybe doing 'lots' of activities with her during the day might help... perhaps she just needs more simulation for her growing brain? Maybe like going to beach, park, zoo, making play dough, being outside...wahtever intrests her the most.

maybe she is anxiuos about going to sleep? nightmares?

you need to get some rest... i know this can be hard, but maybe ask a friend you turst or relative to motivate and entertain her while you sleep (even try lavender on yourself)...?

the other thing i thought of was maybe her melatonin levels are too high...too much light, i.e. computer, T.V. other lights.

hope this can help

Mel - Just wanted to say that I agree with you re her day naps. My DS turns 2 next week and still has a nap of 2.5-3hours every day. He goes to bed at night and sleeps through just fine. At 14 months he was still having 2 naps.

The general advice at this age up until around 3ish is that they 'should' be having a nap of about 2-3 hours a day so she's spot on I think.

Arimeh
i'm just about to order some Badger's Sleep Balm (from urbanbaby), to dab on bilby and me, to make us both sleep better (and hopefully in her case, longer).

i have never got my @#$% together enough, to have calming music playing in her room, we have the cd's, but no portable player.

Dh's idea is always to take her to lougne and watch telly til she falls asleep, but all the advice i have been given, is keep them where the lights are dim and there is no stimulation (audio, visual) etc.

An idea (usually given for much younger children) is to have an item of YOUR clothing (so i'ts got your scent on it) in with the child's bedding.

i lived on two hours sleep per 24 hours, for the first 20 months, it is HELL. Did the sleep school thing for two weeks, made it worst not better (they forced controlled crying onto us). Was very traumatising too, (no respect for any attachment parenting ideas, no respect for parents full stop.).

you have my sympathies hon.

bilby still doesn't sleep the 12 hours like other people post their kids do, but compared to what she WAS like, it is better now. i cannot imagine going thru that situation, ON TOP of being pregnant! i needed so many Nanna naps when preg.

is there a Parent Helpline in Tassie?

We took some lovely shots of DS' bum when he had hf&m - we emailed them to MIL (she's a retired nurse). He only had the odd spot on his hands and feet, which appeared several days after the really bad bum rash started. Maybe google it and see if it looks like that - something else to rule out at least.

Oh Mel - I just remembered after reading Marcellus' post... when DS had HF&M it started on his bum too. I thought it was nappy rash for about 2 weeks. Wasn't till I couldn't clear it that I took him to the GP and yep, that's what it was! Apparently it often starts in the nappy area with little ones.

heya - i haven't read all the posts since the one where you mentioned cramping and growth pains so someone may have suggested this already but have you given her Magnesium? often deficient in periods of growth and can make you cranky. magnesium is a muscle relaxant so you need to take it at night as it makes you sleepy (so could be just the ticket). for such a littlie probably best to go with a magnesium tissue salt or celloid rather than full-on mineral supplement. speak to someone at a specialist health store or naturopath :)
i second the suggestions of lavendar oil in bath/massage oil, chamomile tea and rescue remedy (not from personal experience yet but as a naturopathy student)