MJ and i have just returned from 3 weeks in the UK, honestly i think that it was the best thing that i have done with her, all that time one on one, no distractions, other kids, new toys, new fantastic expereinces....

BUT she is now exceptionally clingy...
when we were away, if she woke in the night, she would come straiaght into my bed so that she wouldnt wake the house up (at home this would happen occasionally) - i did like it, but it is not something that really can continue at home as DH smokes and she figgets so much that no one really gets that much sleep.

She is suffering horrifically from jet lag atm, going there was fine, she slotted back into her sleep pattern immediatley, which is bed 7-7.30pm, wake between 11-1am (come in to my bed while we are away or pat to sleep at home) then wake at 4.30-5.30am for a feed then sleep again until 7.30-8am
Now that we are back, she will go down well at bed time (i usually feed to sleep anyway) but will wake at about 10pm... then if she comes into bed with us or lies in my arms, she will sleep on and off until 2 am, waking every 30mins, sitting up talking, moving around changing position and occasionally crying. Around 2am she wants a feed, and she feeds for almost an hour, then she will sleep until the morning without stirring. She is buggered in the day, but i cant let her sleep (other than her after lunch sleep) as she needs to get back into the right day night pattern...

We have tried (unsucessfully) to get her back to sleep in her cot...she will cry until she is picked up (patting wont work) and the fall asleep in my arms, if i try and put her down it wakes her and she starts crying, actually its screaming and begging me, calling mum mum mumma, we tried last night to resettle her in the cot and it was the most heartbreaking thing EVER i was in tears, DH found it really hard too...
In the end we got her off to sleep, but she work every 15-20mins in tears. At no time did i leave her while she was awake or distressed.
I sung to her, patted or stroked her,shushed her etc etc... picking her up would settle her immediatly, but i couldnt put her down (she would wake and scream immediatly) after 2 hours, we broght her in bed with us, and she still did her usual thing until 2am.

I am exhaused, i have not caught up from my jet lag and i dont know what to do.
Dh and i thought that maybe we will try resettleing in her cot again tonight, again it will probably take an hour of crying, but she has to learn to go back to it, doesnt she???

Is it too early, should we let her just sleep in our bed until she is back into a better sleeping pattern and then start it?
The big thing that is playing on my mind is that i dont want her to resent her Daddy, he wasnt away with us, and now that i am home i sleep with him and not her kwim???

I have also thought about getting something to help her sleep (like medication), i dont want to, but if it was me suffering, i would take something so that i was back in my sleeping pattern, shouldnt i then do the same for her?
I just feel so awful about the whole thing...

Please, anyone with any solutions they t\would be much appreciated. i cant bare my baby to be so tired and out of sorts, i broke my heart last night