If you aren't comfortable with it (which it sounds like you aren't) then it isn't right for you! What you were doing in the first place sounds like it was working just fine. My bub who is 5months on the 30th (sorry, lost track of weeks) started waking more often overnight recently. Apparently this is normal and can be a growth spurt. I just offer a feed and give her a cuddle and then put her back in bed. I generally bring her in with me for a couple of hours in the morning if she doesnt want to settle as easily then as well.

Your a great mum and just go with what works for you and your family!