it is so hard to know what is the 'right' thing to do. Archie went into his big boy bed this week and he is one extremely stubborn and perist boy. i am like you in that i thought it would be cruel and scarey to sut his bedroom door, i didn't want to make him scared of the dark or edtime. however, the first night of his big bed he was fine with the bed but he quickly workec out that he could just come out any time he wanted. He was constantly coming out the room for 2.5 hours! i tried everything to convince him to stay there, but it was turning int a game for him, so i did end up shutting the door. He was hysterical the first time i shut, i made sure his night light was on and let him know that he ws safe and cosy in his bed and it wasn't scarey to shut the door. The next night and every night since he has been perfectly fine with having the door shut and goes straight to sleep.

i felt SO cruel shutting him in there and i still dont like the idea of it, but its what works for him and its his signal that its sleep time.

i dont think there is any right or wrong way to go about it, you will know in your heart what to do, it is really hard, but you will work our how to get her to realise that bedtime is not playtime.

GL i hope you work someting out very soon