it sounds like you did a good job - you tried some different techniques with him & when they didn't work, you removed him from the situation - which hopefully stopped both of you getting any more worked up (cos it's not worth the emotional drain really, is it?!). did he calm down after you left? do you think it's the size of the group that upsets him? maybe it's because it's something new? sharing is tough for them as well. my DS doesn't get too upset but there's one little guy at playgroup who always wants the same toy as my DS & then cracks it if he can't have it. but i'm lucky in that our playgroup session is two mum's groups put together so we've known all the other mums & kids for ages.

i'm pretty clueless with my DS sometimes & don't stay as calm as i should. i also understand the whole idea that they play up for you & not anyone else. i try to put a positive spin on it - like they feel safest with us so they feel able to push boundaries. or something like that

i hope the play date goes well this afternoon