Kids hurting kids in daycare?

[MrsFabuloso]

In the childcare centres I ahve worked in, no your child will not be excluded from the centre, they actually have no right to unless there are serious (and I mean SERIOUS) grounds for behavioural reasons. She is a baby and this is what babies do. She is testing her boundaries and learning about being social, trying to express herself since she likely can't talk enough to say what she wants and lacks the self control to be able to stop herself from doing things which we as adults see as being mean and nasty.
Childcare might be what she needs and might teach her about the social aspects of things. The childcarers will be able to give you some behavious management tools to use. She might even be an angel at day care! The centre will have a behaviour management policy, it might be a good idea to read it before she starts and become familiar with it, also read their philosophy and see if it 'feels' good for youa nd it's what you want for your child. Let the staff know how you deal with things at home too. Try to make it consistent and day care and at home. The centre should not do things like time out, or any other sort of exclusion from play techniques of behaviour management (they may move her from a situation/particular child, but not away from the area of play or the other children), they can't do any physical types of things like smacking (it's illegal!). It should be managed with words, talking, explaining and modeling the desired behaviours.
You are not being a bad mum, nor is your DD doing what she does on purpose. It is very normal at her age to act like she is. I know it is utterly frustrating and makes you feel bad for the other children, but don't blame yourself. Just be consistent with her, give her boundaries, give her simple words to say when she hurts another, and show her how you want her to act. It is totally an age thing.
HTH