Background: DD was a reluctant sleeper. DD first time she slept for 5 hours was at 15 months. blah blah these days most nights she sleeps in her own bed all night.
DS is awake hourly overnight. He was sleeping 7pm ish - 11 or 12, but now this is only couple hours and then hourly from then on. He starts night in hammock, and then into our bed. doesn't always want to feed, but wants to be sat up (and then settles) or patted or cuddled.
BUT, i got him to sleep at 6 ish, and then got up a little later leaving him on the bed with DH (but DH not touching him) and now he has slept for 3 hours.
Yesterday, (after another rough night) he has breaky, shower, boob, ..... and i put him to bed in the hammock and he slept for 4 hours.
Could i be waking him overnight? it would take awhile to get him to sleep and transferred to hammock (or to sleep in hammock). (don't know if i cbf) but would it help?
is it something that i do that means my kids don't sleep? or am i doing the best i can, given that my kids take awhile to work out sleep? i don't know anymore.
Don't go blaming yourself now , you are doing the best job you can as their Mum. Sleep deprivation can really get you down (been there done that, have the t-shirt lol!).
It sounds like it might be worth experimenting by getting him off to sleep then transferring him to the hammock. You'll always wonder otherwise and if it happens to work, then yay! Does he like to be bounced off to sleep in the hammock? All mine loved to be bounced off to sleep and once they were in a deep sleep I could walk away. Over time I bounced them less and less until they worked out how to go to sleep by themselves in the hammock (no crying involved btw).
Working out sleep is SO hard, you are doing a great job .
I co-slept with DS1 and he was a fantastic sleeper. I assumed that DS2 would sleep better in bed with me as well but he turned out to be a "I'll sleep on my own thanks mum". Once we moved him into his own room he slept even better.
Transfer back to hammock could help. It did for us, at about the same age. We bounced, patted, settled, shooshed, all together, and eventually got to a point where I could just shoosh or sing without getting out of bed, and DD would resettle.
Worth a try? And if it sucks, well, you're not much worse off...
DD was very similar to this. She Coslepy with us from birth. Around 6mos or so I think, her sleep deteriorated a lot. We thought perhaps it had something to do with her getting too warm, or DH or I moving when we sleep, and that disturbed her, or something.
So we decided to put the cot up against our bed, and take down the side rail (in effect making an extra section for her to sleep) and that helped a lot! It seemed she liked having her own space but still being right next to us, If that makes sense? She still didn't sleep through the night until about a week ago, but she did sleep for longer periods of time, and I could settle her away from me, but still near me, and I didn't have to get up! lol
Sent from the land of "iSomethings" so forgive me for any spelking misstaks
Yeah, my Liebling would be up for hours in a quiet night then sleep for hours through the train and city centre when I took him out shopping. So I figured if light, noise and movement weren't waking him in the day it probably wasn't that in the night.
I just co-slept with Liebling. When he didn't want feeding at night I just laid him on my chest and cuddled/patted him back to sleep. Meant I didn't have to get out of bed so had some rest. Yes, there were nights when I walked the floor all night only to be told my child "looked tired" the next day. But sleeping with my son instead of my husband meant we were more rested than we would otherwise have been.
Just had a bad week of it again with DS up in the small hours for hours and has been cosleeping again of late (eczema then nightmares). I figure there'll be a time he doesn't want me in his room in the small hours so I get to sleep then. Or he moves out.
Is it me?
Reply With Quote, you are doing the best job you can as their Mum. Sleep deprivation can really get you down (been there done that, have the t-shirt lol!).
lol
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