My DS is going through terrible two's. He screams when I ask him to do anything, and to top it off, he has now started hitting me. Not anyone else, just me.
Naughty corner doesn't work. He just laughs.
taking his precious toy doesn't work for more than a few mins. And if I am feeding the bub, he will drag a chair over and get it down. (have changed where I put it now)
Smacking him back, really doesnt seem like the answer, asit would be reinforcing the behaviour. I have thought about smacking him in the same spot that he smacks me, so that he understands that it hurts to get smacked, although I am not sure about wanting to do this.
When we were at the shops there was an indoor playground. He went right to the top and wouldn't come down. Just stayed in there and laughed. Eventually I had to climb up and drag him down. He was smacking me the whole time. I then had to drag him out of the shops. I am sure that people thought I was a terrible mother. What do I do???
Meg- I am trying to think up some advice for you.
With Ash when she is playing up I send her off to sit by herself somewhere and tell her not to come back til she is being nice/ behaving, what ever the prob is, if she still playing up I just keep sending her back til she does the right thing.
Could you pretend to put his toy in the bin? We've done that before.
As for being out and about thats a hard one, I've had to drag Ash away twice kicking and screaming while carrying Emily in the HAB.
It's not an easy one Meg. My 2 1/2 yo is doing something similar. I put it down to being a younger brother but it's probably more temperament.
I wish I could give you some magic answers, but if I had them I wouldn't be still going through it! I tell him it's not acceptable, and if we're at home I'll put him in a safe place until he calms down. Out and about is harder. He uses a sheet or pillow case as a comforter so I try to always have one with me. Mostly (not always), that will calm him down really quickly. But if I don't have it - uh oh! Sometimes having a stranger talk to him calmly will work, other times I have to just keep him safe until he eventually calms down.
Then when he's calm I talk to him to reinforce that it's not ok to hit, that it's ok to be angry but when we are angry we mustn't hurt others etc.
The good news is they do outgrow it. I can't wait!
Oh Dear - we have been through this with Paige when she was cutting out her day nap but was still overtired. James and Paige are the same age - so it's definately all just developmental.
I think consistency is the key, get down on his level and explain that what he is doing is unacceptable (sounds so supernanny).
Paige's room has a babygate across it, and we use it only for those desparate times when real time out is needed. We call it ' quiet time' and we put her in her room and shut the gate. Because we call it 'quiet time' she can read her books etc, somedays she crawls up in to bed and will lay quietly before coming to the gate to say 'Sorry'.
We also give Paigey choices throughout the day so she feels she has some say and control in her life.
It must be so hard with two Megs and I am not looking forward to the meltdowns with a newborn in tow.
I must admit - Paige has settled down a lot now, I think because she has adjusted more to no longer napping.
Thanks for the advice. I know it is an age thing, but I really hate seeing him act like has is, as he is a nice little boy. I am trying to put myself in his shoes and unsderstand why he is upset and what it triggering it. Def overtired is one thing. Also he is currently cutting two of his 2yo molars, so that might be adding to it.
Oh - BTW, Chrissy, I might see you next weekend as I may come along with my sis for her photoshoot.
My DS is hitting!
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I am trying to think up some advice for you. 
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