Need some advice re Toddlers sleeping in parent's room

[Danni]

Ok I really need some reassurance. Hopefully I am not the only one here. Please don't use this thread to tell me how bad this is in the long run...blah blah.

Does anybody else have their toddler still in their room? And does anyone else plan on leaving them for a while yet?

I am just not ready. I can't elaborate much more. Perhaps it is linked to my PND. Actually I'm positive that it is. BUt I just can't move him to his own room. And yes it does look like we will have two kids in our room.

Has anyone else done it?Please say yes

[Rivlas]

Mabello,
There is no reason you cannot have your child in your room if you want.
My youngest brother slept in my parents room until the age of 4 or 5 due to lack of space and it didn't do anyone any harm. He is now the father of 4 and his children all slept in their room until they went into a bed, again due to lack of space.

What did parents do in years gone by that had large families and small houses?
When the time is right he will move to his own room, only you as a family know when that will be.

All the best on your scan this week.

[fionas]

Absolutely agree with Rivlas though if you'd asked me five years ago, I would have thought you were both crazy LOL.

DD still sleeps in our room and she's 17 months old. Initially this was because we had some structural things wrong with the house so she kind of HAD to be in our room, but I actually really like it. We will finally be getting her room 'fixed' in about a month so in theory she can go into her own room. However, I'm not ENTIRELY comfortable with this so I have also put a single bed in there too so that I can sleep in there if I want to.

I'm sure it's not down to this alone, but everyone tells me what a happy baby she is. We have a carer come in to look after a couple of times a week who also looks after a few other babies, and she always says to me, "I CANNOT get over how happy she is all the time." I really put it down to the fact that she is very secure because we are never far away from her, we let her sleep when she wants to sleep and I don't bother trying to get her out of the house when she'd rather have a four-hour day sleep.

Sorry, that turned into a ramble but DP and I were just talking about this earlier.

So to summarise, I'd say don't worry about it - if it works, carry on. And if it starts to feel Not Quite Right, then slowly change it.

I just feel much more bonded to DD having her sleep in our room. I can't imagine going 12 hours not hearing her breathing and shnuffling about. I just think it's lovely. Half the time when I go to bed, I accidentally make a bit too much noise in the hope that she will stir and I have a half-decent excuse to go over, pick her up and give her a cuddle.

[Matryoshka]

Mate you do whatever makes you happy! i know a family who has their FIVE kids all in their room and these are the coolest most outgoing happy kids i've ever met!

Our boys both have their own rooms and bed/cot but by morning both are usually in our bed. If people tell you are making a rod for your own back you can tell them just where to shove that rod Its really none of anyones business what your sleeping arrangements are.

[Butterfly Dawn]

We have 2 kids in our room. sometimes 2 in our bed. We co-sleep with the baby and untill about 3 mths ago DS1- he now has a cot at the end of the bed- we have taken 1 side of the rail off so its easy to access. Some nights DS1 will go in there himself, other nights he falls asleep in the big bed and we put him in cot later, unless hes sick then DH likes to keep an eye on him.
We have our bed against the wall and baby sleeps closest to the wall then me, DS1 (if hes there) and then DH on the outside.
I put the baby to sleep 1st, then 30mins later DS1 comes to bed. If im not staying with them I put pillows on the outside edge of the bed and keep the door semi open to hear any noise.
Hope this helps

[KimB]

I have my youngest 2 in our room with us. Our toddler reverted a little when the new bubs came home but we didn't make a fuss about it. We just put the bassinette in our room for bubs and the cot for our toddler. She has her own room and sometimes will have her day time sleep in there but likes to sleep in our room at night. If it makes her feel better then so be it. She will let us know when she is ready.

You're not the only one

[Ellibam]

both my kids start in their own rooms but end up with us...
when DD was born we had co slept with both( we even bought a king size bed)

[bronners]

We have our son in our room (just turned 3). Expecting another bub in about 3 months and I can't see the situation changing! We are quite happy with him there DS is in a single bed next to our queen so there is plenty of room.

[Danni]

Thank yu sooooooooooooooooo much. I feel so much more at ease now. I'll BBL with more personal respnses xxx

[Willow]

Babe, I say do whatever you think is best for you. I know LOTS of families who end up with both kids in their bed every night, most wouldn't admit to it, but it happens more than anyone talks about!!