Just very quickly in response to one thing there Colleen - I dont understand why people would be pressuring you to put Jaykob in a bed yet??
Aidyn is still in his cot, and I am hoping to keep him in there for at least another 6 months (until he is 2 and a half).
I thought the main reason for young toddlers moving into single beds was due to a new sibling one the way who needs the cot, or due to them being able to climb out of the cot.
Anyway, just my 2c quickly there...
IMO moving them into a single bed is opening up a whole new kettle of fish, so I am going to avoid it until it actually becomes necessary.

Its a strange thing about daycare isnt it? I think Christy mentioned that Matilda is the same and will sleep fine at Daycare.
Aidyn also goes down to sleep really well at daycare (without all of the fuss and crying that happens at home) although he doesnt nap for nearly half as long as when he is at home in his cot. (at daycare they sleep on mats on the floor, and I dont think he's used to it...)

Odette - I have read somewhere that from the age of 18months + is when they become scared very easily of the dark, and other things they dont understand during the night.