Now that DD is getting older and more independent (I can't believe she's 13 months!!) we want to start phasing a couple of things out. Definitely not wham bam, over the next 4 or so months, so nice and slowly, but we've no idea what approach to take. Firstly, there's the dummy. We've given DD a dummy since she was a few days old I believe. I was sure I wouldn't use one when I was pregnant, but when she was born she had so many head/jaw/neck issues, it turned out to be a really good tool for helping her to open her mouth wide enough to suck. And then it just became a good comfort tool, do we've kept it. Now, she will mainly only have it for sleeps, but I have noticed if she'll find one while playing, she'll pop it in, or sometimes see one and want it. I've never been a fan of the whole toddlers with dummies look, so I'd love some tips for gently phasing it out. She does have other comfort tools, like toys and blankets, so I'm not worried about that. I have noticed since she's stopped BF the dummy is requested a lot more. So advice there would be awesome

The other is her bottle. She has 3 250ml bottles of either cows milk or donated EBM a day; one before her morning nap, one before her afternoon nap and one before bed at night. So that's a big sleep association. If we need to go out and we're in a bit of a rush and I think it'll be a bit of a stressful time, I'll take a bottle with us and she'll have one extra that day, because it calms her a little, but that's very occasionally. Again, I'm not a fan of toddlers and bottles, I don't want to have a battle on my hands with DD wanting bottles etc, so again, slow and gentle methods for phasing that out. I don't want to get rid of the milk altogether (I still feel she needs this, maybe it's my guilt over not having milk and not being able to BF, but I think she still needs her milk emotionally, because physically she's a good eater), but I would like to somehow turn maybe her day nap bottles into a cup with a straw, something like that? She has her water cup with a straw that she loves, I was thinking another one in another colour for milk? Starting off warm like her bottles and slowly getting cooler until its not heated anymore? What did other people do in terms of that? All advice would be awesome, TIA