Be careful with reading too much!! There are so many books out there, and articles, and opinions - you need to sift thru it and work out what is going to work for you. Or try a few things and not be afraid to say "Nope, didn't work, scrap that!"

My DD (now 15mths) was still waking at night til about 12mths. Even now, sometimes she randomly wakes up. Like you, I didn't think it was a food thing as she was a good eater and still having good BFs during the day, so I didn't reintroduce a night feed. We just persisted with settling her... and eventually she got it.

Can your DP help? So you get a bit more sleep? Or are you both just as sleep deprived??

WRT the standing up thing - maybe if you catch it before he is fully awake, like if you go into him as soon as you hear him stirring and try and either lie him down straight away before he's woken up or even stop him before he stands, that might help? I'm not too sure... sorry! We haven't had to face that one (yet, touch wood!).

I really don't think you'll get him to understand that lying down is sleeping time if you don't touch him - I don't like books that say you're not too touch them to resettle them - but that is just my opinion. Like I said at the start of the post, you need to figure out what will work for you - more importantly, what feels right to you.

As a mother, touching my child to soothe her felt much more natural to me than the hands off approach. Even now - we've just begun transitioning to a big bed and she's been a bit unsettled, rubbing her back and stroking her face is much more affective than not touching her.

But there are some babies that might get more and more awake if you touch them, so you'll have to see how your DS responds to different things.

You say he has a lot of energy - my DD is similar and for her, I think she began sleeping better when she started walking (around 12 months). She burns more calories and energy up and walking than when she was crawling! So that may also occur with your DS - once he starts to be more active, he might sleep better at night!

How are his day sleeps? How many and how long?

I know how hard this period can be for you. Hang in there.