Say no and meaning no

[visitor2]

I need help and adivce on how to stay firm when i say No.

I'll give you a idea on when i need to stay firm.
Ever since MIL came over when Alex was born and she brought anything and everything when she went to the shops for Kimberley. I know that was over two years ago and now it's all my fault but everytime we goto the shops Kimberley wants something and i don't mean something small. The last lot of things is dolls at $20 a time.
I did manage to get her out of this habit and suddenly over the last few months she's started back up again.
I say no she screams, i say no again she jumps up and down while screaming. I get firmed and walk away she starts pulling on my clothes and dragging me back. While all these lovely ppl stand and stare.
Sometimes i can get away with out buying anything but some days i just can't deal with her like that and it's easier to give in.

I don't want Alex or Eleanor to do the same thing when they get older.
I have started to go shopping on my own when i can but it's the odd times when i go with them all it happens.

[Krisvee]

That's hard Michelle...I don't really have any great advice but don't worry about what other people think when she's throwing a tanty...You know it's mostly other mums around and all of our kids do it at one time or another!! LOL!
I'm sure other people will be able to give you some good advice!
Stay strong!!!

[monnie]

Michelle...there's a great behaviour management programme called 123 magic that is brillant for limit setting...and helping parents to be consistent...

It's designed for kids aged between 2-12 and works really well for mild to pretty severe behaviour problems.

I've used it for about 10 years in my work (I work in child and adolescent mental health) and just love it as it's about reducing the emotion and over-talk in behaviour management...once the kids get use to it, they respond to it really well...

It's also flexible...and is well aware of the tricky circumstances that things like shopping centres throw up to parents...

There's a guy in Perth who runs courses on it...PM me if you want the details...otherwise you get just get the book...the author is Thomas Phelan...

It won't just help with the situation you are talking about...but any parenting dilemmas...

Good luck!