It is so horrible isn't it!! My kids are similar. My dd is a better eater at dinner time than ds, but often I will make a meal and neither of them will eat much, if any of it. I had been giving them fruit or a carrot after if they didn't eat, but have stopped that too now.

DS is still bf and has booby before bed, so I don't worry so much about him, but DD now goes to bed hungry, or with just 1/2 a cup of milk if she wants it if she absolutely refuses to eat. I leave her food out until bed time and often she will eat it just before bed time. I dont know if she's testing me to see if I will cave and give her fruit, but she will carry on until I give her her 10min warning before bed time and will then eat it. It drives me batty.

But many people have said that children won't starve themselves. And I guess they're right. Maybe he's just not that hungry? We stop snacks nad milk drinks at 3.30pm here. We eat dinner at 5.30ish, so 2hrs without food isn't going to kill them!!

HTH!