Thanks girls.
Well i have a sling on order - so i am really hoping that will make things easier during the day to get things done. i do have a front carrier (it is a quinny brand) but i find it too cold to have her little legs poking out at this stage.
As for dummies she wont have a bar of them! we have tried but it makes her scream more (and we tried a few different types).
Ashley also doesnt like being held in the 'colic' hold on her belly on my arm. she much prefers to be upright...
I havent changed my diet at all so not sure about that. I have a pretty fast let down so i have been hand expressing a little so that she isnt drowned in the fast spray of milk that comes at the beginning of the feed.
I guess it is persistance and doing what i can to get through the day.
She does like her baths though!

thanks again girls