I am not much help either.. I was told when Dd was a baby to play with her hair and put it up as soon as I could to get her used to it.. Well fat lot of good that did me.. I do her hair beautifully everymorning and within 30 mins she looks like a feral child.. My neighbour commented one day so while we were camping with them last week I proved to her that Miss DD is a little feral all on her own

Good Luck.. Fingers crossed once she cares about her looks she will stay looking nice lol