Chelsea is now a bit over 7 months and her sibling is due in 15 weeks. I have noticed when she is with kids her age, younger or older, she turns into a real bully, Poking eyes, pulling hair, trying to bite, pinching etc.
I understand she is young and learning new things and exploring... but im worried she will still be doing this by the time M2 is here.
She obviously does not understand what no means or my explanations why she cant do something just yet... but how do i tell her no now so it doesnt keep happening? Or is this normal and i should just not worry about it?
When she does something no i sternly say NO and stare right at her and she just laughs and keeps doing it....
I'd say it's normal. The poking eyes & pulling hair is probably just wanting to feel and touch everything. My DD still likes to try and touch my eyes especially because I wear glasses. My DD had a pinching thing for a while when she was 15mths, that's a bit older though. I was told the best thing to do with pinching & punching was to get to their level and say a stern 'NO' and remove them from the situation without too much fuss as they'll just learn that they get that exciting reaction from mummy if they keep doing it. I'm sure it's just a stage though - one of many LOL.
Both DD and DS went through this stage. DD only just got over it and still hits my friends DD(13 months) every now and then. Friends DD also went though it but worse then Paige. Paige is starting to realise NO now when I say NO she stops what she's doing.
I hope Chelsea gets through it soon.
Another thing a friend used to do with her DS when he was naughty was hold his hand and squeeze it slightly and look into his eyes whilst telling him 'no'. She said it worked for them.
DD went through this stage too. A firm No worked most of the time, but if she did it again I move her away for a little while. After a short break she would become interested in something else and stop poking the other kids.
My youngest DD went through this as well and some babies are jsut more inclined to do it than others. I even got asked once if I had done the 123 magic course (which is for parenting difficult children) - I laughed and said it is just a developmental stage, don't you know that? I found that telling her 'no' and then moving her away from the other child worked well and she got the message that it wasn't OK. It can take a while so you need to persevere with her.
No doesn't work with my DD (I wish it did!), rather, I need to tell her what she should do - like when she tries to hit the dog i'll say gentle, gentle and then she'll (usually) pat him.
Does your DD have a baby doll that she can treat like her baby? Perhaps you could teach her some things with a doll?
I wish.. she doesnt have anything....do u think she is a bit young for a doll...like to teach her things? I tell her to be gentle with the cats but she gets all excited and pulls there tails and whiskas.....
I guess she will grow out of it... ill just keep on with the stern NO's and see how i go!
It sounds normal to me too, Kim. At our mum's group there's a gorgeous, bright spark who's been termed the group 'bully' LOL. She's just really sociable and is into everything and everybody! The other babies find her a bit overwhelming, but she does no lasting damage Chelsea will probably soon learn what 'no' means, but I'm sure when the time comes you'll develop very effective methods of removing M2 from the situation if it gets too rough
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Chelsea will probably soon learn what 'no' means, but I'm sure when the time comes you'll develop very effective methods of removing M2 from the situation if it gets too rough 
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