For those with more than 1 child... One on One time...

[BrightSparkles]

What age did you start one on one time with your LO's?

Miss J is REALLY testing boundaries atm, and i've just had this thought - maybe it's because I don't spend enough time with just her and this is her way of fighting for attention?? She is 2.5yrs old.

Did your LO's do this and did you find that more one on one time helped??

TIA for any suggestions.

[berrme]

One on one time is always a good idea, though not always easy to manage. Spending time with just DS1 didn't stop him being a naughty boy all the time, just while he was getting the quality time. It did help to have that nice time though, just so I could remind myself that there really was a nice boy inside that little monster when he was being really difficult. lol.

I think that even now the only real one on one time I get with DS1 is when DS2 is asleep. For DS2 to get my full attention I need to send DH out with DS1, so it can only ever be on weekends.

I am pretty sure all kids test the boundaries at your DD's age, so don't go thinking you are doing something wrong.

[skybie]

i notice a huuuuuge difference in DD1's behaviour when she has one on one time, it doesnt need to be with me, can be DF.
and the onoly time i can seem to manage it is when DD2 is having a nap.
good luck hun, its not easy keeping the balance

[BrightSparkles]

Thanks girls. I was thinking maybe one afternoon after work when DH or I can have Miss S for an hour. I'm just trying everything atm. I know it's an age thing too.

[beckoes]

i love the one on one time i get with DD...whichis all the time at the moment casue im not due for another 6 weeks. But i worry that i will miss that special time so much when #2 comes along, i think i will probably miss it more than she does

[Arimeh]

It definitely gets harder the more kids you have! When dd1 came along, ds and I would have a special morning tea every day after I put his sister to bed. We also used this time for reading books etc but I didn't take him out or whatever for special one on one time if that makes sense?

Poor ds gets nothing now, dd1 doesn't have a day nap so she is around all day too. I have special one on one time with dd1 when ds is at daycare on Wednesday's and dd2 is asleep. I have special one on one time with dd2 on Fridays when the older two are at daycare.

Definitely harder the more kids you have

[Lenny]

Spending time with just DS1 didn't stop him being a naughty boy all the time, just while he was getting the quality time.

I actually agree 100% with berrme's post. My DS1 is nearly 3 and he's had a whole year to get used to having DS2 around. But he still is the most happy and content when he is one on one with me (or DH). But that's just not reality for him, so he has to learn to live in this family and share his parents with his brother.

DS2 gets very little one on one time, bless him. I think when DS1 is not around he wonders where all the noise has gone, and why no-one is bashing him and stealing toys!

I do try to give them both a bit of time with my full attention (i.e. distract one with trains or food and then read a story to the other), but you do the best you can, and sometimes it doesn't work out that way.