My baby is 16 weeks old & sleeps well overnight. During the day is a different story however. He mostly catnaps for 30 minutes or so each time, all day. Ive tried everything to extend his sleeps without success so ive had to accept that this is the way he is.

but im finding it exhausting & draining & after some tips to manage it better - basically it can take up to an hour of screaming to get him to go down for his nap & then when he wakes after 30 minutes & wont resettle I could cry.

So my day is basically:

Ds wakes for the day
Change, feed, play, top up feed if required (1hr & a half awake time)
Spend up to an hour enduring the screaming trying to get him down fir his sleep
quickly use the bathroom & make/scoff food as fast as possible, maybe sit down for a few minutes if im lucky
ds wakes (30 mins later)
Spend 30 minutes trying to resettle with no success
awake for 1 hour - change, feed, play, feed again if required
repeat above

this usually goes on all day. Dh doesnt get home till around 7, when ds is either asleep or (more often) im still trying to get him down. If thats the case dh takes over while I cook dinner. We eat dinner, watch a little tv & then I have a shower & go to bed

I barely get a break or any time to do anything for myself & im finding that really hard

im also really struggling to endure the screaming for up to an hour each time. Ive tried listening to music with headphones on but it doesnt help. Any tips for how I can last long enough to actually get him down? Half the time I cant take it anymore & I just give up so then he doesnt sleep & is then impossible to get down for the rest of the day as he's so overtired then he screams all afternoon/evening. I need to not give up but I dont know how to push through it

just to note, ive tried adjusting his awake times & it makes no difference as far as getting him down for a nap - it still takes up to an hour.

Also I cant see any cues at all, never have been able to, which is why im using times.

Its hard to have friends over cause I want to be able to spend time with them instead of being in ds's room with the door closed for an hour. So I just dont usually bother having anyone over unless its the weekend & dh is here.

its also hard to go out as I dont drive & he'll sometimes sleep in the pram but not always - and that usually envolves an hour of screaming in the pram as well. So we just dont go out unless its the weekend & dh is here

Ive had to accept his sleep patterns as ive tried everything (including getting professional help) & nothing works. Im just after ways to make it a bit easier on me