Thanks ladies. It seems that one of the bigger problems is that DS either doesn't understand our instructions or picks and choses which ones he wants to follow. I don't think that he doesn't understand us, as for example when we ask him to look at a plane outside he looks up straight away to where we are pointing. Or at home, when I hear a plane outside, I say 'where's the plane' and he looks to the window outside. If I say 'look daddy's coming' he will look at the direction he's coming from. But other things like when I say 'get your cup' or get this or that he doesn't do it. He will however (when he feels like it) give me what ever he's holding, eg. a phone or a dummy. It's just so inconsistent and I'm so confused!

Artechim, my DS sounds exactly like your DD. Do you mind sending me a link to that thread you've started for her? I would love to read it. Thanks hun!