Hi everyone! I'm not sure if this is the right area to post this question so please feel free to move it lovely mods
Now first of all, I am NOT pg with #3! DH & I are tossing up whether or not we should have a third child. DH has always wanted three children, but since DS2 he has had second thoughts! We had some big issues with DS2 for a few months (sleep issues, grumpiness, seperation anxiety, etc) and I nearly went around the twist. DH doesn't want me to go through that again and I kind of agree LOL! But, DS2 & I got through all of that, he now sleeps all night and is a really happy cheeky boy again.
I never thought I'd want a third and I'm still not sure, but I kind of feel sad that this is it IYKWIM? It's so fun to watch your children grow and learn new things and I sometimes think it would be nice to experience it with one more child. Gender is not an issue, I love having boys! If we had a third boy though would it be chaos?
I don't know! I need help weighing up the pros and cons! So...those of you that had number three - Was it a rude shock? Was life so much harder? Was it not as hard as you expected? How did you cope with a bub and two other children? Would you recommend having a third child? (Silly question, I know no-one regrets having their children, but you may like to warn others it's best not to have another one!).
Sorry for my long rambling post, I just feel so confused about it all. I'm not 100% sold on either choice and I NEED to feel 100% certain! We want to have our minds made up within the next few months so we can move forward in our lives.
Hey! We found that the transition from 2 to 3 was not bad at all. I think going from 1 to 2 was more difficult for us. With the third, the older girls were both used to having to "share" mummy, and so sharing with one more was not a big adjustment for them. Of course there will be times where you are at your wits end, but I think those days happen no matter how many or how old your children are. I'd say go for it! But then, I have always hoped for a bigger family, and we'd like to have more, so the idea of only having 2 would be very strange to me!
I've heard some say that it's hard adjust to not having enough hands to hold your kids when you go out, and that is true. But I've found that one in a wrap/carrier, and one on each hand works pretty well. And besides, the days of having to hold on to your kids at all times are limited - they grow up fast! A sibling-friend is for life.
As far as spacing goes, we've never planned our babies, but they've been about two years apart thus far, and I find that pretty nice. Again, I think there are pro's and con's to different age gaps, and your child's personality will make a big difference too, and that's something you can't plan for!
But as you said, you don't regret having children - when they come, you love them to bits and couldn't imagine life without them.
They are about 20 months apart. It would have given me more time to get DS sorted sleep-wise etc. It does depend on the kids personality a little too I suppose.
DS would have had just a little more maturity to cope with it all, from what I've seen (and this was in a thread a little while ago), that a 3 year age gap seems to be perfect and thats the way I'd do it again.
I'm not sorry though - and anyway I had to hurry and have the next one so I could still qualify for mat leave with my employer and get my home loan before they realised I was pregnant! At the time I had started my business and knew that it would be very hard getting a loan as a single person running a business. Actually impossible!
So I did hurry it through and still hurting from losing a surprise baby before DD, so everyone is different. For me it would have been better leaving a few more months between them!
To late for me to think about going 2 to 3...its on the way....i cant wait.
For me i think smaller age gaps are easier to manage (not that i know what a big age gap is..and what its like) the girls are in the same routine, both in nappies and both as demanding equally. DD1 helps with DD2 when she wants to so the small age gap hasnt ment i have to do 'everything' for them.
I think with #3 DD1 will be able to help so easier again.
I found that I felt very simular, wasn't sure about number 3 or if i wanted a third baby. I have Pos and it takes months of testing and drugs to fall pregnant, naturally has been out of the question. My son Joshuah was a handful, still is although he sleeps fine he is a handful in the day and rarely if ever stops no means try again and keep testing mummy till she cracks. My daughter was never like this, it wasn't till I fell pregnant naturally last year that we relised we wanted another child, my husband and myself got so excited at the prospect of another bundle of joy. Amazed that it was natural and for us a meant to be miracle baby........ But it wasn't meant to be and we were very devistated when i misscarried, we were told to wait 6 months so after a lengthy discussion we thought we wait until Joshuah was in school and less of a handful so we'd wait the 18months before trying knowing that it could take us months before I'd fall pregnant again. But low and behold another suprise was waiting for us and we were a little more than shocked when I tested posative early in febuary this year, our little miracle baby is due in October! We are super excited including the kids and counting down the days, but still shell shocked at the prospect of having 3 children!
Hope this helps,
Snoopea
What was the transition to baby #3 like?
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