DD#1 has changed literally overnight from a beautiful, gentle little thing into a horrible, viscious, malicious little girl. She has been so incredibly good with DD#2 until now - lots of cuddles, holding hands, stroking etc but suddenly she is so nasty. She is giving her really hard, two handed shoves. The poor little thing's head is rebounding off wood floors, door handles, coffee tables. You name it. I'm so worried she's going to do her a serious injury. And DD#1 knows she's doing the wrong thing.
Please somebody tell me what I have to do to stop this. I'm so worried about both of them - one who is obviously doing it for attention (which I thought I was giving her more of lately) and the other who is at real risk of physical harm.
Oh no you poor thing . I'm not much help either, my DS1 would never hurt a fly until his little brother came along! As soon as DS2 was old enough to move and get in his way he would hit or push him which upsets me so much and poor DS2 has copped a bruise or two. Whenever DS1 does something to harm DS2 we put him into time out and then make him apologise to his brother. We are making slow progress, but I'm sure that if we're consistant he'll stop doing it as much.
I suppose every younger sibling bears the wrath of their big brother or sister, I know I did LOL! I hope things start getting better for you soon .
Having a (kind of!) similar issue here - but it's our two year old beating up his 4 year old sister
He just walks up to her and shoves her, or pulls her hair, or hits her with whatever's in his hand...completely unprovoked
Obviously she's old enough to give as good as she gets - but funnily enough she rarely retaliates physically. We also put him in time out and make him apologise...at a loss really to know what else to do. He's usually such a sweet, loving little boy but lately he's just going feral. DD never really went through this at all - and she was two when he was a newborn
Sorry not much in the way of suggestions but plenty of sympathy.
OMG I could have written this post hun. I've had the worst day today and she is getting progressively worse. She knows how to be gentle and usually is but today we had the works, shoving, scratching, slaps, lying on him, putting her feet up on him etc.... If I take her away she just laughs and comes back for more. I've thought that I've been giving her loads of attention but it seems that all I have to do is say hi mate to James and its time to play up. I guess we just have to be persistent and up the attention we give even more. I think my Iz has worked out that he is here to stay now and isn't just here for a visit!
Hopefully some wise women who have been where we are will pop in soon.
I'm so sorry gorgeous ladies but I have no tips at all. The last week or so Olivia has been getting really aggressive with me. She hits, kicks, throws things, bites and screams at me. I tell her not to do whatever one she is doing at the time and if she does it three times in a row she gets time out. On the second time she gets told if she does it again she will get time out. I sit her in time out for 1 minute and then talk to her about what she did and tell her she has to say sorry (even though she can't talk yet) and we have a cuddle. And OMG Olivia does the laugh at you and comes right back for more.
I'll be using the same technique when bubba comes again and is getting some of Livvy's special attention.
Sending you a massive Lulu and Tan. Sorry I couldn't give you a magic fix. Hope things improve for you really quickly.
What's gone so badly wrong?
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