Thanks Girls.
Maybe take away her favourite toys or dvd if shes not behaving. Do you do time out or the naughty corner at all?
We use a naughty chair and she understands that. I've also stopped the tv being on also. More books and toys.

How many sleeps a day does she have? you could maybe cut one out that way at the end of the day shes really tired and she falls asleep. Or let her run around outside, i know its harder now but DP when we lived with his sister he would play with her heaps before bed that would tire her out and she would drop
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On a normal day she will have one sleep for about 3 hours. The last week though she's been sleeping for about 45mins in the morning - because she's so tired and up so much during the night, then a 3 hour sleep from about 12pm. We always have her in bed no later than 7.45pm as she is so grumpy and tired.

Also look her at diet is there anything in there that she could be having an reaction to.
We are going to start an elimination diet to see if foods have anything to do with her behaviour.

will she be cuddled or patted back to sleep? If so I would resort to that, back to old comfort methods.
I would happily do this but even thats not working at the moment

Is there any way you can get a bassinet for bubs? Move her back into her cot?? Even borrow one?? Just thinking it might be better in the long run to try and find a way to put her back in her cot. Sounds like she's not quite ready for a bed. I tried Ash in a bed in March, but what normally was a smooth bed time turned in to a 2 hour battle with him getting in and out to play! So he went back into the cot and i've borrowed a bassinet from a friend.
We have a bassinet and the plan is to have bubs in that for as long as we can. DD climbs out of the cot - at the lowest setting, hence why we moved to the bed.

Also remember you have a bubba due soon, they pick up on the change.
I'm hoping this is all it is

I can't do the exhaustion to the point of tears anymore. I don't have family around to help out so it's me and DH.