I was inspired by another members passionate declaration of her love for her baby to ask this one as, although I felt very protective of my DD from the moment she was born, I think she was about 6 weeks old before I realised I was 'in love'. (Totally dotty over her now! )
Did anyone else 'grow into' the love bubble gradually? Have it hit later? Is still waiting for it? And did you feel like you couldn't say that or people would think you were weird for not being totally besotted from the get-go?
Just curious....hoping to get non-judgemental personal experiences in response.....
I have always been protective of DS but I was one of those that grew into the love bubble. He was probably 3 mnths old before I 'loved' him and I really had to put in a concious effort cause we just weren't bonding at all. I have to confess that while I 'loved' him I didn't 'like' him until he was about 12-15 mnths
Now I am absolutely besotted with him and we kiss and cuddle and smooch alllll day looong
My DS was 4 months old when I had the realisation that I really, really loved him. I didn't conciously 'dislike' him or anything - I would of done anything to protect him and keep him safe, I thought he was gorgeous and I certainly liked him but one day it just hit me so strongly about how much I loved him. I even cried my feeling were so strong.
I think that you always think it will be an instant love for a baby, which for some people it certainly happens. In my case, I think it took me a while to get to know this little guy and his personality. Also dealing with learning to be a mum as well. It's was a bit like a relationship I guess.
I don't tell many people about this - I have told people that are close to me such as my sisters but that's about it. I don't feel guilty about it but I do worry that people won't understand what I mean.
Now I am definiately the same as Kelebek - we are very cuddly and always say I love you, which I love. We didn't do that in my family, so I am glad that my little family is able to show its love so freely.
My love for DS grew over time too. I used to hear other mothers describe their love and bond with their babies and was so guilty that I didn't feel it for my child. Of course it did happen, just not straight away like it did with my other 2.
with Jack it was instantanous but I think that was because it took so long for us to have a baby in our arms and then to nearly lose him at birth
with Luke it was Sat night I was laying in bed after all my visitors had left he was wide awake and looking at me with these big eyes and I got this overwhelming sense of love for him
Yeah it took us a few weeks here, probably at least 4 weeks, and then one day I was feeding her, looked down and I also cried the feelings were so strong! I think 'love at first sight' for our babies is less common than people think.
I have never "fallen in love" with DS. I do love him and he's adorable, but I'm apparently quite lacking on the old maternal instinct. I'll let DS do loads of dangerous stuff, like going downstairs on his own or walking near a road or over a bridge. Apparently most mothers don't do that. Well, if they do they tell me they don't. I've never been in a situation where I would have to die for DS. I probably would if I could, but I can't foresee that happening. I don't wish I had his illness when he's ill. I just enjoy the cuddle-time knowing that I'm not really poorly having to look after a manic toddler. That's not proper mummy either.
I like DS a lot too. We have great conversations and he has a great sense of humour. I've just not fallen in love with him.
When did the love bug hit?
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