On the weekend wenwent to visit my cousin, his wife and there 3 week old baby.
DS told me he doesnt like babies, and he doesnt want to be a big brother.
He gets very upset if other children sit on my knee, or his Grandmas, adn tell us to put them down. If we do, the then climbs on us and wont get off.
Im really worried about how he is going to handle a newborn coming home...when the time comes..
Its been suggested that we should get him a pet, and that he will have something of his own to look after etc when the baby comes home, would this help?
Hmmm a pet might work, a special teddy..something like that.
I thought the same thing with my DS, but really he only gets upset now if he is really tired and wants a cuddle and I'm holding her. the rest of the time he is mostly happy to sit next to us, and pat her head or something (yes, like she is a puppy!)
I have no first-hand experience with this however one of the girls who works for us recently had her second child. Her first was 1 when her second was born. In the last few months of her pregnancy her DS would get very upset when you even mentioned that he would soon be a big brother. He would turn his head and sulk. He would refuse to cuddle Mummy's belly and if you asked him where the baby was well he'd just walk away with a big frown on his face.
Needless to say that his mum was really worried about how she would handle two little ones if DS wasn't going to co-operate. She didn't have to worry. As soon as DD was born her DS was mesmerised by her. He absolutely loves her and won't let his little sister out of his site. He's always asking for her and when you now ask him if he's a big brother his face lites up and he's very proud.
I know this isn't the case with everyone but maybe your DS will settle into his new Big brother role easier than you think when the time comes.
My DS1 (Cooper) loves being a big brother. I gave Cooper a toy when DS2 (Adam) was born and said it was from Adam. Cooper thought that was fantastic. It took a couple of days for Cooper to accept that Adam was here to stay and someone was not going to take him away but once he worked that out, he was fantastic.
I make sure that Cooper and I have plenty of one-on-one time and when I am feeding Adam, Cooper sits beside me and we read together. I get Cooper to help bath Adam and dress him. I show him that he is so important and it helps that Adam lights up and gurgles when Cooper is close to him.
I recommend praising your DS whenever he does anything good, even going a little overboard in the first few weeks of bubs joining the family. Before the birth, maybe talk to DS about how fun it will be with bubs when bubs is a bit bigger. It helps that bubs will sleep alot during the first few months so you can still spend a lot of time with DS.
Mmmm, I don't know... Personally, there's no way I'd consider adding a pet into the mix, but I am a very anxious parent so for someone who's more normal than me it might be worth considering
Because he is still so young, the pet will realistically still be your responsibility, KWIM?
As others have said, he will possibly really surprise you.
Worried about how DS will go with number 2 bub
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