Well, i was given a copy of a book to borrow (that i am not going to name as i have read in other posts that the author has threatened to sue for defamation... PM me if you want to know) after recieving some information to help settle MJ...
So, i had loosely be following the feeding/sleeping times fairly successfully (prior to reading the book) and so after reading the book i decided that i would give the 'self settling' thing ago, i had my doubts the auther says that she doesnt like CC, but it sounded like CC to me (shouting/crying its all the same when they are sobbing ).
well i will NEVER be doing that again, my poor MJ cried and screamed and it broke my heart. I never left the room like they recommended, but kept laying her down over and over until she cried herself to sleep... i decided that once i had started i should finish just this one time (although i caved twice and cuddled her until she was quiet and started again)
I hate myself and i am pretty much on the verge of tears. I cant believe that i did that to my poor little girl.
Yes, she probably is waking up at the end of sleep cycles, but there has to be a better way that will not have her sobbing like that. I dont care how much my back hurts, i will rock her or hold her if that is what she needs.
aww hun big hugs. I know how u feel.. i cant do the CC thing either. Ive tried. Caved after 30 seconds and just hugged and cuddled her tlill she went to sleep. I want her to go to sleep happy.. no sad IYKWIM.
I think its difficult when you're trying to sleep!
DH wanted to CC which I hated, but on the up side, it did teach me more about his different cries, which I wouldn't have been able to show DH as quickly without the CC.
I think most of us have given it a try when we are desperate and I'll put my hand up as I tried once a while back. It was traumatic for both of us.
Please don't let yourself feel too guilty. It is very apparent that you love your little lady and thankfully they are forgiving little people.
I heard from a friend the other day that her cousin has CC her newborn son from birth!!!! He was crying up to 1 1/2 hours before basically crashing from pure exhaustion. I don't want to judge this woman but it makes me think how disconnected from her son she must be to ignore his screams. It makes me very sad for the wee little lad.
Not to mention that the little boy will grow up distrusting his own intuition because mummy doesn't listen to it so it mustn't be worth much
Well, there's one less space-hog in your parenting toolbox, sammiejane. After 2 and a half years my toolbox is real economical on space - love, responsiveness and compassion
I know it seems so cruel. My friend has tried to get her to pick him up but how far do you go before you are overstepping the mark. My friend said she couldn't be there when he was screaming because it just tears her heart our so she leaves.
If I was there there would be no way I could standby and listen. I would be putting in my two cents worth and give her a copy of 'The Science of Parenting'.
I know of lady that does that. When you hold her little boy who is about 6months now he never wants to be let go off He is dying for affection
Also this mother never ever has eye contact with her son. Some just shouldn't be parents. Loving your child isn't hard
Sammie, don't be too hard on yourself hun. I tried the CC thing once and I would never do it again. I too felt bad but it didn't last long. I have famiy and friends that swear by CC. Not in this household.
I have held my DD heaps of times to rock her to sleep and even let her sleep on me through the day a few months ago when nothing seemed to work.
I just went with the flow and stopped reading things (apart from "Buddhism for Mothers" by Sarah Napalthi which is an awesome book may I add).
DD co-slept at night with us from birth too. 6 weeks ago now, my DD went into a new toddler bed and we've never looked back. Went in straight away and all sleeps are in that now, she loves it. And here I was thinking that because I held her and co-slept that it may have caused a bad habit that we would never be able to rectify. I still hear that from many mothers that they don't want to start doing it for fear of not going into their own bed down the track. Sure it happens but we are one success story and our DD just went straight into a toddler bed without any problems or issues.
Dont be hard on yourself, you had to see if it worked for you and Molly
I went to sleep school and they said to do 3min blocks at the most. Mind you i prefer to cuddle Annabelle and think she'll end up a better kid if she isn't stressed putting herself to sleep.
Dont beat yourself up, we all have to try things to see if they work, Molly was always safe and has a great loving mummy
I tried the CC thing the other week and I just felt like the most horrible person in the world
I will leave her if I need to or if I know it will help but if I know a quick cuddle a booby will help then so be it.. I decided she is only little for such a short amount of time..
THe worst way to settle a baby.
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I tried the CC thing the other week and I just felt like the most horrible person in the world
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