My dd is 26 months old, and we are expecting our second child in May. Over the last few months Chloe has become more and more clingy with me. It has gotten to the point where I ALWAYS have to be in the room with her, otherwise she throws a major tantrum. She is fine at daycare and being looked after by other people, but when I am home, she will not leave me alone. She follows me to the toilet, tries to pull me off my chair when I'm eating dinner, and won't leave me alone at all. This means of course that despite his best efforts DH spends very little time with her because she throws a tantrum. He has been so patient with her, and I really feel sorry for him because sometimes he really thinks she doesn't love him (not true of course).
I don't know if this is normal 2 yr old behaviour (I know the tantrums are, but what about the clinginess), or if it is because she knows we are expecting a baby. We have talked to her about the baby and tried to include her in preparations for it as much as we can. But I don't know if it is all a little too much for her to cope with. Has anyone else experienced this and what did you do about it?
Boy oh boy... we could exchange some stories!!! There is only a few days between your DD and my DS - and OMG ... clingy!!!!!
There are days that I can't do anything by myself. If I sit on the couch - he sits on me or right up next to me. If he sits on me, he faces me and puts his face really really close to mine - constantly. If I go to the toilet, he is there - he passes toilet paper through my legs into the toilet. If I lie down on the floor to play with his sister - he's all over me. If I go into another room - HE COMES TOO!!!!
I swear there is no moment of the day that he is not like a little piece of toilet paper stuck to my butt - just being there all the TIME.
Sheesh it gives me the irrits. I did have a break because DH used to put him to bed at night. Now, nope - mummy has to do it.
So unfortunately - I'd say perfectly normal behaviour!!!
My DD is really clingy with me when DF is around. She cries with him and reaches out for me and clings on like she'll never see me again. When he's at work though, she's normal. So he tries to spend as much time as he can with her, and some of the time she's fine, and the other part she's upset. We're just trying to ride it out, she's been feeling a bit unwell the last few days.
Rosy, my DD is very clingy when we are out and about (unless she is with her cousins!) but she seems ok at home and at CC. I would say it is probably a phase. DD was like this for most of last year, up until just before her birthday. This year she seems to be a whole lot better, and I've no idea why.
I'm sorry, I don't think this has helped you, but I'd say it is really normal behaviour (unless you can think of anything that might have happened that's upset her recently?) and will pass of its own accord.
And, sorry - OT, but how similar in age will our kids be?!? LOL!
My DS will cling to his dad all the time. I have a few thoughts on why... One is that dad lets him get away with everything, there seems to be no limits which s#*ts me beyond words, and I work nights, so when DH gets home, i go off to work and am home after he is in bed. My theory here is Dad gets to have all the fun time with him. They go to the beach every arvo when its nice and cool, they play, he gets dinner bathed and bed. So their time is quite fun compared to our time - me getting housework done, getting dinner on and just the usual trials of everyday living as a housewife! I sometimes get upset that he wont come to me when Dad is around cos wen dad not there we have a beautiful relationship. So i can understand how your hubby might feel, cos it can be quite rejecting, But for me i think of the things I said above and can kinda understand it. I no this does not help you at all, but just thought I would share it anyway.
Clinginess what do I do?
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