Crying all the time....please help!

[Macca79]

Hi all,
My 3 month old has been crying all weekend when ever I leave his sight. He only stops when I hold him or walk him in his pram.
I have tried Panadol, Infants Friend, rocking, singing, ignoring him, talking to him, you name it I've done it. I don't think he is sick as he smiles and coos when he has my full attention. He just keeps yelling but is eating and wetting nappies just fine.
I don't know what too do.

[butterfly*kisses]

Hugs for you Macca

Sometimes bubs need mummy a little more than normal......they go through stages.

Sometimes they can play you too - that's the challenge of being a mummy - to know when they just need you, and when they are playing you.

My aunty had very premmy bub, and when she eventually got her home finally, the bub cried all the time (just as you are describing). She took bub back to the specialist, cause she thought there might be something wrong. The doctor told my aunty to go home, turn up the music, put bub in the cot (making sure that she was warm and dry etc) and vacuum the house - the whole house, without picking up bub. She said that it was the best advise she was given - cause bub was playing her.....and there is a limit to how much you can carry and attend to bub (both physically and emotionally).

Good luck with your bub - make sure you are having some time to yourself - even if it is a little walk whilst DH looks after bubby.

OH PS - I noticed you are located in the same place I am located.......! It's not very often that I have seen others on BB here!! Maybe you could join us for an outing (being school hols)

[diva-n-dan]

We just went through this period ... some days are better than others.

If you've exhausted all the other possibilities, meaning he'snot sick or refluxy or what have you, then he's probably just worked out that you are NOT a part of him ... that you are a seperate entity, and therefor you can go away ... and come back

Now what to do about it? In all honesty I don't know ... only you know your darling bubba best. But what I did with my darling man was to sling him ... when he knows you're not going anywhere, when you come when he calls and he feels secure enough to know that, it s"should" dwindle.

Hope that helps darling ... remember you're doing a fantastic job and no one loves and knows your darling better than you ... trust your instincts and you shouldn't go far wrong ... *hugs*

[dee73]

Sounds like he's going through the Wonder Week where he realises you can go away from him and he cannot reach you. Do a search for Wonder Weeks on here, and also on Google and read up about it, it won't stop him crying, but it will reassure you that it's normal and will only last a few days.

If you google it, follow the link to the cyh, and from there they have a link to the actual book site which has lots of great excerpts and the all-importnant "calandar" which show you when the WWs occur.

[Amie]

If you've exhausted all the other possibilities, meaning he'snot sick or refluxy or what have you, then he's probably just worked out that you are NOT a part of him ... that you are a seperate entity, and therefor you can go away ... and come back

I know it is not much help but sometimes they just do need their mumma a bit more than usual.... for no real reason other than he has acquired a new skill he wants to show off or because he is feeling a little overwhelmed with all the rapid development and is looking for comfort.

Yep, totally agree with Diva and Carley. Oh, and Dee too about the Wonder Week suggestion. Not all baby's are right on the wonder weeks schedule but, as it says in the book, they'll be roughly close to the wonder week age and the changes are usually pretty spot-on.

At this age, he doesn't know how to manipulate you. All he knows is that he has needs (food, warmth, security) and that mum seems to be pretty great at meeting all of them

Sounds like he's just a little overwhelmed. Remember, pretty much everything is new for him and even though we all get excited when they reach a new 'milestone', it's a whole new world for them. The way I think of it is, imagine if you woke up today and you could fly. No-one has mentioned flying, the thought had never crossed your mind before, you haven't seen anyone else do it... I think you'd be a little freaked out and overwhelmed and in need of some reassurance! Pretty much every week he realises he can 'fly'

You're doing a really great job, to you xo

[Macca79]

It's a bit late but I just wanted to say thank you all for the advice. It seems as though DS has just been going through a 'mum' phase but it has gotten better. He will whimper when ever I leave the room but sometimes he just has to whimper (ie when nature calls).

[B]butterfly kisses[B] - I would love to join you on an outing some time. I didn't know that there were BB members in Darwin who met up. Please let me know when your next catching up. PM me if you like and I can give you my contact details.

[Liz]

My paed said it's a sign of intelligence that they're learning to recognise people. It's a good thing! They go through these phases, and they come out the other side. We just have to ride it out

Glad to hear it's settled down a bit for you