Thanks everyone. I appreciate all of your comments and thoughts. I know next to nothing about flu shots cause we don't normally bother and go with prevention as well plus DP and I never really get it anyway.

Ali - the CC centre know about DP's situation. This is such a small town that one of DS's carers was working an extra shift at the hossy as a nurse during one of his first investigations back in September/Oct last year There are no such things as secrets here. They are saying they will def alert me early if they have an outbreak of anything, the problem is that there is usually that period of contagious time before symptoms so it might be too late. I am serious considering just pulling him out of care and going on leave for a few months over winter but it's whether we can afford it or not. He has already used up all his sick days for the year as it is with all our travelling to the city.

This feels really tricky and I want to make the right choice for everyone. DP is saying not to put DS at any risk on his behalf....

I will probably start making some calls to the health dept tomorrow.