Thank you everyone, this is all very confusing. I haven't spoken to DP since he stormed off and abandoned any parental responsibility for the evening by going to bed at 3pm. It feels scary to be considering all this, I feel like I'm plotting and scheming and that feels wrong- even though I know I'm doing the right thing for me and my son.

Wow, have I been brainwashed or what?

I think I'll head down to centrelink tomorrow and see them face to face since my phone is disconnected. How convenient.