How soon after giving birth did you tell family/friends?
As the title says, how soon was it before you shared your news?
My bro and sil had a baby at 11.30 last night, and called people at 2.30am. If that were me I either would have called immediately or the next morning, not in the early hours of the morning when people would have been super fast asleep. With ds he was born at 1pm, dh called his mum and my parents about an hour later but they were both with lots of people so I ended up with a thousand people in the birthing room almost immediately. I hated it and it was so opposite to what we wanted. This time I don't want to tell anyone until I'm ready but Dh thinks I'm a bit of a grinch given that I also don't tell a soul when I go into labour.
DS1 was born at 2130, my mum was at hospital with us so knew as soon as DH came out of theatre with DS1 and MW. She then rang my dad and brothers, DH rang his parents and I rang my best friend. I then didn't send SMS's out until 0630 and was later than that for DH as he was sleeping at home!!
DS2 was born at 0850 DH rang my mum who had DS1 at home and mum rang dad and my brothers, DH rang his parents and then we sent out SMS's around 1230 and posted to facebook, much to my disgust my SIL had allready posted on FB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DD was born 8 pm ish and we rang the 2 sets of grandparents within an hour. We
said they could let our siblings know if they wanted. Everyone else waited till next day.
DS was born 1am and again we called 2 sets of grandparents soon after. I was 41 weeks pregnant and had a traumatic first birth and was having a homebirth, which my mum was anxious about. So we wanted to let them know everything had gone ok. Friends waited till next morning.
First time, I knew visitor hours were closed so I had till the morning before anyone could come in.
Last edited by HotI; April 25th, 2013 at 06:00 AM.
We live an hour from both our folks, and knew they wouldn't visit in middle of the night, so again we had few hours for just us before any visitors.
I also don't tell anyone when labour starts, and if I thought people would just arrive before I was ready, I wouldn't tell them baby was born until I was ready for visitors.
With DD, my mum visited early day 2 and MIL visited that night. We asked most others not to visit, and we would catch up at home. I was unwell, and no one questioned it (to us anyway). If they had, probably more reason for them not to visit cos they probably wouldn't understand when mum or baby getting tired and needing visitors to leave.
You do what you have to do, I hope your partner comes to understand that, and support you in your decision.
For our first, DH called both our parents as soon as I was in recovery. His family live in QLD so no chance of them visiting but mine live locally so popped in not long after I was back in my room.
For number two, she was born about 2am and my DH went home about 6am so mum knew then. My sister txt me early morning to find out what was going on as my waters had broken and she kn ew bubs would be born within 24-48 hrs. I called my Dad about 9am and DH spoke to his Dad but don't know what time. A generic txt was sent to other family and close friends later in the day.
All of mine have been born at reasonable times (3pm, 10am, 6pm and midday) so we tend to call our parents straight away and let them tell the extended family. We then text friends.
If the next one comes in the middle of the night we wont tell anyone until at least 7am. I'm pretty polite and believe in letting people sleep - but maybe that's because I've not had a full nights sleep in over 6 years and I really respect sleep LOL
How soon after giving birth did you tell family/friends?
My first was born in the middle of the night and we called both sets of grandparents but that was it till the morning. She was the first grandchild on both sides so very special!!
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Both of mine were born around 5.45-6pm so we called people within an hour. We only called my parents and dp's parents and siblings, everyone else got a text that I sent out just after we'd spoken to people on the phone. Actually, with ds I didn't text ppl till the next day because we.hadn't settled On a middle name!
if they'd been born in the middle of the night we pron would have.called immediate family (well, parents) but def wouldn't have texted till the morning. I'm lucky that my phone is usually at the other end of the house - I've woken up to a few text message announcing births
I call a few hours after the birth when all the bits and pieces are finished and I feel ready to talk to people. The first two were born near midnight and our family have given us the go ahead to call anytime day or night so I rang them around 2 or 3am. THe last one was born about 9am and we started calling people around lunchtime after everything was settled down. We only call family and text friends, or have a phone tree where we call one friend and they go on to call others.
I think it's totally up to the people having the baby when they call, I know it can be an anxious wait if people know you are in labour (we don't let people know we are in labour) I don't think there is a wrong or right time to call, things happen that take time after a baby and staying present there is really important. I guess having a conversation before the baby arrives asking family are they happy for the call day or night is probably best. But in the end, it's all up to the birthing parents who they call and when after their big event.
With DS1 he was born at 5am so I waited until after 6am to ring my family, with my DDs everyone was there, DD4 Dh rang everyone 30 minutes after and with DS2 it was about an hour after.
A friend of mine just had her second, around midday. I didn't get the text til 11.30am the next day. I thought that was odd - almost 24 hours! I'm going to ask her why she waited that long... And yes, I'm confident that I'm an A-list friend
All of mine were born before 10am -two at 5ish and one 9.30. We called immediate family straight away then waited a few hours to let friends know.
Funniest for my mum was DS2, she was at our house with the older two, had arrived around 4am and we left 4.30am, arrived hospital 4.45am, DS2 was born 5.20am. I rang her and I think she was expecting DH, saying "we're here, all good, keep you posted" and instead she got me going "shh, listen" and she heard the little newborn mewling and was like "is that a baby?" And then she started crying
How soon after giving birth did you tell family/friends?
I messaged my mum at 12pm saying it would be awhile yet and then at 1.15pm messaged saying she's here! After DD rocked into the world at 12.57pm! Mum got such a shock she jumped in the car and zoomed to the hospital and left dad behind!!! DH called his parents at the same time. I did the friend group text at about 4pm
DD was born at about 2pm, we told people about 3 hours later.....HUGE mistake we had a constant stream of people for the next 3 days. People turned up before I was even showered or out of the birth suite. Hun, I dont want to tell anyone for a few days this time!
With DD1, born at 4:36pm, my dad and Aunty had just been to visit me while I was labouring, went for a coffee and came back to knews that DD1 had arrived so they knew straight away. DH called his parents and sister straight away pretty much and I messaged everyone else and I added in the message what time visiting hours started in the morning so they knew they could come then. So we had my dad, Aunty, PIL, SIL, and one of my closest friends come straight away but I was happy with that. My mum lives 10 hours away so we rang her on the way to labour knowing it would be another day before she arrived.
DD2, born at 2.30am we did not tell anyone until early morning, around 7am I think. Both very different but I enjoyed both ways very much.
How soon after giving birth did you tell family/friends?
DD was born at 840 am by scheduled CS at 38 weeks. We'd deliberately not told anyone when it was happening so we had less risk of visitors on the day. DH didn't start telling family until after 2 and then sent out an announcement email about 4.30. He couldn't wait any longer and put it on FB about 6.
DS was born at 11.30pm and we didn't call family till first thing the next day. It took hours to get all stitched and sorted and by then we had been at the hospital for almost 45 hours and just wanted a sleep. We texted our friends around mid morning. Thank goodness visiting hours for family and friends was not until 3pm in the arvo so we had a nice chill out with just DS, dh and I for the first morning.
Dd1 was born at 9.20 pm so we rang grandparents that night, about 11.30pm once I was out of recovery etc and then waited until the next day for everyone else.
Dd2 was born about 3 pm but nobody got told until dd1 was brought into hospital with the grandmothers and had been introduced. Dp wouldn't even tell the grandmothers what the baby was until dd1 had met her. They still get huffy about him making them wait but we wanted dd1 to be the first to know!
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How soon after giving birth did you tell family/friends?
we had a constant stream of people for the next 3 days. People turned up before I was even showered or out of the birth suite. Hun, I dont want to tell anyone for a few days this time!
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