I went to a birth preparation class on the weekend and when the topic of birth plans came up the midwife told us not to write a birth plan as the midwives find it very insulting when people walk in with one particuarly if it lists things on it that they do as routine I challenged this notion and did point out that as first time Mum's we have no idea what is routine and what isnt so wouldnt it be better to have our wishes documented and if they already do it then everyone is happy? I also stated that my birth plan is not only for the medical staff but for DH as well so if I am unable to communicate for myself he has everything listed. I am really hoping this is just the opinion of a single midwife and not the view of the hospital as I feel like if I go there with one now I may be treated differently as a result. I suppose this is where the continuity of care problem comes into it as I have a private OB so can discuss what I want with him prior to the day but the reality is he wont show up till the business end and I would have never met the midwives before at the hospital (unless I get this one who hates birth plans!.)

Would you still write one or should I just do one for DH and he can make sure my wishes are made clear if they try to deviate from what I want without good reason? I do plan on discussing this with my OB at my next appointment to see if this is a shared view.