im writing my birth plan in preparation for a meeting with my student midwife next week and im stuck how to word that i do not give consent for assumed consent if that makes sense? i want to mention it tactfully cos i dont want a cranky midwife when i need them to support me and my MIL works as a homecare midwife for the hospital. last time we had several things just happen without even my MIL knowing what was happening (she was one of my birth support people) and i really would like to avoid that again cos it was done in the name of getting DS safely here....but he got apgars of 9 and 9 so i dont know how necessary they was.