:rofl: Schmick!!! You're priceless! I was thinking - what kinda doofus does that - and now I know!!! :cryinglaugh:
I was so surprised during my very long labour and subsequent c/s, my DP was, dare I say it, perfect. Wasn't expecting that at all...
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:rofl: Schmick!!! You're priceless! I was thinking - what kinda doofus does that - and now I know!!! :cryinglaugh:
I was so surprised during my very long labour and subsequent c/s, my DP was, dare I say it, perfect. Wasn't expecting that at all...
My DF refused to read anything about labour and birth and also refused to go to any antenatal classes so I was quite apprehensive about him being with me.
I was induced and while we were waiting he decided to flip through the book I had bought him, to read what he could about labour (peeved me off).
The damn doctors wouldn't put the amount of the drip up so I was stuck at 4cm for ages and then at 6cm when he asked to speak to the registrar outside. Lol my thought was OMG he is going to punch that doctor. When they came back in the doctor made vague noises but DF came out and asked me if i wanted a c/s (WTF). Luckily my g/f was my other support person and she told him it wouldn't be much longer and she was right. They had gone to get the head obs and by the time he got down there (15 mins max) I had gone from 6cm to 10cm and he told me to start pushing.
DF had absolutely no idea what to expect and certainly not the pain involved (read the book earlier d*ckhead) so he just held my hand and told me he loved me and that he would never put me through this again (yeah right lol).
The funny thing was he didn't want to watch her being born or to cut the cord but he did both, with a very white face mind you lol.
Sorry for the epic girls but the best advice is get them to study, study, study lol
OMG .. you girls have done it tough !!! I might make sure DH reads through these comments and make sure he doesn't do any of it!! But who knows what will annoy me when I'm in my labour moment!! (I'm yet to get him to read the Pink Kit stuff, I've found the info fantastic, just hope I can get him interested to have a read!)
well my DH was really excited about the impending arrival of our joy. he came along to classes and read the bits of books that i pointed out to him (i think it would have been too much to expect him to take the initiative on that one LOL!).
then...DD decides to come 2 weeks early. i had spooky pregnancy premonition and told DH that fateful morning that maybe he shouldnt referee that soccer game in that town 2 hours drive away that afternoon. he kissed me on the cheek and told me that we were just being over-cautious. 2 and bit hours later my waters break. annoying. i knew it would happen.
so anyway, in full swing of labour. contractions are 2-3 minutes apart from the start, it's pretty tough going, a girl could use some words of encouragement, or a massage or help into the shower...bit hard to get that when DH is SNORING on the couch.
He slept through 9 hours of the 9 and half hour labour. only woke up with a start when the OB and midwives came rushing in as i hit transition and began to push! LOL!
ah well. i guess i can say that i laboured all by myself, but not really how i envisioned it (or how he did for that matter...mmm that massage would have been good! LOL!).
Poor DH, Hindsight tells me he did a great job but at the time I assumed he the worst of intentions for me!
Firstly he could never massage my legs and back the right way, would spray the water in my face at the wrong distance and never aim the shower nozzle at me in the right direction.
Worst of all after a very long labour and 2 nights of no sleep, my labour seemed to be stalling in the hospital and I was getting increasingly desperate for sleep. I finally consented to try some pain killers to enable me to get some rest and begun sucking down the gas like it was a lifeline. My poor DH looked increasingly worried as he began to assume that I showing signs of drug addiction (he had not done any research about labour and did not know how the gas worked and what it might do to me or the baby).
I got really frustrated with him because he kept telling me to stop sucking so hard on the gas, and that he was really worried about me, and that I shouldn't use so much of it. He even told me that I looked like a mad woman and a drug addict.
I was soooo frustrated and desperately, between contractions I concentrated really hard and attempted to explain to him that I needed to suck the gas in such a way so that I could make sure I would have enough of it in my system to take effect when the contraction peaked. I couldn't understand how he couldn't understand and why he kept giving me such weird and unsupportive looks.
it was only 2 days later, when I attempted to debrief with him about how upset I was that he was so unsupportive that he told me that what I had said to him in the labour ward was not the rational explanation for the use of the gas that I thought I had given him, but that I had whispered to him in conspiratorial tones that I had to suck the gas really quickly so that all the other women in the other beds didn't use it all up... as I gestured wildly at the empty room..!
Apparently the lack of sleep and the gas turned me into a mad woman who was imagining things and he was completely right to be worried!!
I now realise he did a brilliant job!!
All the way through the labour DP was talking quietly to me & I couldn't understand a word he was saying ... just could see his mouth moving ... nothing else mattered to me. All I was interested in was what the midwife was saying to me.
Infact I felt slightly ticked off cause he looked so calm (I secretly must have wanted to see him suffer in some way) ... Anyway, moments before our daughter entered the world I said to him in the politest & kindest way I could as I realised this was his big day too ... " Coouldd yooouu pleeassse NOT talk so much " :doh:
Which was hysterical to him as those that know me, know that I talk alot ... and DP is known to be reserved, a bit shy & quitely spoken. Under normal circumstances I would never have said it to him ;)
(He too held the bucket for me when I vomited in transition ... that was no# 1 in my book ... true love there :dance:)
Though he chickened out in cutting the cord & I ended up doing it ... yeh, my body was in shock from a quick birth ... I can tell you I was a dangerous woman with those scissors shaking away !!!
* I had to scream at him from the bathroom when my water broke, he didn't even want to come and see what I screaming about because he was playing XBOX
* he slept, A LOT. The main thing that upset me about this was that he was taking the bed in the labour ward so I couldn't lay down and rest.
* He got annoyed me when I was crying from the pain (read: fear of the pain)
* He didn't really comfort me, though I think he just felt lost and tired, I don't think it was intentional
* I wanted him to be next to me as I gave birth but instead he watched DD come out (which I'd specifically asked him not to do). I couldn't tell him not to as I was too busy pushing.
* He let the midwives lead him away to talk to my (upset) mother about what was happening while I was screaming, crying and begging him not to leave me. (I blame the midwives more for that one to be honest).
I hate thinking about the dissapointing aspects of my labour, of which there were many :(
Honestly I don't think that there was anything that DH could have said or done that wouldn't have been annoying. He was actually really good, supportive, doing what I said without comment, rubbing my back, stopping when I snapped at him to stop. But I was just annoyed at everyone. So I guess the only advice I could give anyone, is to just BE there, do exactly what you're told (don't offer suggestions), agree with everything your wife/partneer says (but don't be patronising about it) and DO NOT take anything said or done to you by your other half personally (we may mean it in the moment when we tell you you are useless and that we hate you for putting us through this - but that moment WILL pass, and anyone going through the agony of labour deserves to be cut alittle slack. And no matter how joyous, exciting, or whatever other positive emotion / feeling birth is (or is supposed to be and was for me) it most definitely is agony.)
Oh wait I remember something that was REALLY annoying. I don't like talking on the phone at the best of times, and have made it clear to DH with both births that if he wants to ring the hospital up to let them know we are coming in (like you are supposed to) that I AM NOT talking on the phone. And both times DH has let the midwives on the phone bully him into putting me on the phone to tell them how I am progressing! Next time I am putting my foot down and just turning up to the hospital unannounced!!.
With My first When the labour started i was 3 weeks over due... I was having pains (but had BH since 32 weeks) DP was saying its labour . everyone told me when ur in labour you'll know... I didnt think it was... after i scrubbed the shower out i decided to lay down and after an hour he was like "your pains there 5 mins apart.. I never bothered to time them as i though it was just BH...
During the labour he kept asking me "are you alright" repeatedly By the 20th time (poor DP0 i yelled back "no i'm not freakin alright, i'm trying to push out a watermelon from my vajay jay" Apart from that he didnt do much else except stand there white as a ghost and trying to give me a smile... (god love him... his terrified face made me feel scared *****less)
With DD i was induced and he kept saying... Ohh todays the day... like all excited... Worst part was i was terrified of doing it again... During the labour i had no pain relief til the last 10-15 mins... During the l;ast 45 mins i was yelling at him for just sitting there with the same terrified look, telling him to "freakin help me" and "why arent you helping me"
All in all my DP wasnt much help at all, but then again what could he have done to help me???? if he tried i probably would have told him off for doing something wrong:rolleyes:
Oh no, not that worried face. My DH and my mum did that one pretty much the whole time and OMG it drove me insane. I wanted to put a bag over both their heads so I ddint have to see. It just made ME feel worse and that was something I didnt need.
Yikes. Some of these are terrible! :cryinglaugh: I was very blessed with my H- he was a much better support person than I could ever be if the tables had been turned. I'm the one with constant foot-in-mouth.
DH was pretty good thru the whole thing, the most annoying thing was when I was in the shower and he was holding the shower head on my lower back, but kept turning to chat to the midwife! Grrr...
Thankyou, all of youladies for sharing your stories - DF has read this thread and has learnt a great lesson what NOT to do/say in a few months time!
The "fist" one is just hillarious!!!
In hindsight my DH was great with both girls labours/deliveries. He would run and get me anything I asked for including reassuring midwives at a moments notice.
At the time he did annoy the heck out of me with DD1's labour. I had a stretch and sweep done on Tuesday and cramping started immediately. That night at 1am I had a show and called the hospital. He was completely oblivious to the phone call and my pain and I wasn't being quiet! Wednesday I lay in bed all day moaning and groaning waiting for the contractions to get serious while he played on the PS2. I was due to be induced that afternoon but labour had already started. DH was on the phone telling his relatives that I was getting induced, completely disregarding the fact that I already was in labour and had a show. It really annoyed me. On the way to the hospital he drove erratically, going too fast and then braking hard, all the while I'm getting strong contractions. Once we arrived at hospital he was great with the exception that he kept trying to comfort me during each contraction and I couldn't stand to be touched at all. I even swore at a midwife to 'don't f***ing touch me' at one time and later apologised to her for my rudeness. She understood and was very forgiving. DD1 was born on Thursday... I was absolutely exhausted!
With DD2 I was induced on Christmas Day. DH calmly took me to hospital and was great the whole time we were there. No complaints at all. Quick labour and birth and helpful hubby. I guess 2nd time around he knew what to expect? Hopefully this next one will be like DD2's delivery.:pray:
Every time I had a contraction and would grunt/cry/scream in pain he'd say "(MG, you have to breath through it. It doesn't hurt that much - this is just the beginning"... he's lucky to still be alive!!!
Then he kept trying to sneak over to his laptop in the corner of the room - the moron had brought work in with him!!!! What did he think we were doing?! Going on a picnic?!?!?!?!?! I believe my words were something along the lines of "If I have to do this, so do you. Touch that computer and I'll smash it!" :redface:
But he made up for it in the 5 days I was in hospital post delivery - he was the most wonderful supportive husband and father.
When i was in labour with ds2 i had a pethidine shot as i was getting 5 contractions every 10 mins so wasnt quite coping, after the shot i was complaing that it wasnt working and the midwife said it will take a little while to work, she then left the room only about 5 contractions latter i was on the bed and told DH to get the middie and he aksed "what for" i said as nice as i could because he was questioning me "get the midwife" he then told me to " be patient it will work soon" i then yelled at him to " get the flippen midwife i need to push" I mean really who tells a women in labour to be patient.
These are so funny. If only they knew what they were doing/saying. I especially loved Kiki's and Fionas'- they were priceless.
My complaint is nothing in comparison- my beautiful DH and the midwife sat on chairs at the side of the birthing bath slurping (which irritates me to no end at the best of times) coffee (the smell of which makes me nauseous in pregnancy and labour) and I was too worried about being impolite to tell them both to leave and find another spectator sport. I really really hated the feeling of being watched. Next time I swear I will labout in a dark room ALONE. My DH was great other than the coffee but I was worried he was bored! WTF????
Oh dear :lol::
My Dh was pretty great through all our births. My first was my only Natural delivery and we both kept saying Sory to each other :lol: My mum found that hilarious..
My DH was fantastic during my labour, but I do recall at some stage putting my finger to my lips and giving him the biggest 'SHHHHHHHHHHH' because he was talking to the midwives and I was trying to concentrate.
Luckily he got the message and I was left to concentrate on the task at hand.
When i was in labour my hubby asked if i wanted another baby.
my hubby was pretty good. the worst thing he done was tell me i had 120 contractions left b4 they would do another internal. and when i was in the bath i was screaming pretty bad and he kept looking at me like shut up.
other then that he was perfect. he cried when i got my epi cause apparently i grabbed his arm and yelled out to him like i was dying lol
Sorry ladies i had to laugh at some of the replies in here. I must have an extremely SNAG as he said to me this morning, thanks for carrying our little buddles, how sweet was that!
He was great during my labour with DS, at one stage i was holding my breath during contractions as it was the only way i could cope, this was just before the pushing stage and the midwife kept telling me to breath as though i was going to drop dead all of a sudden or something, it was annoying but DP just tried to get me through it without the annoying breath, breath, breath!
I've just been LMAO for 5 mins with these :rofl: and recalling my DH & MIL & my mum...
15min contractions all day Fri, water broke Sat at MIL's who INSISTED I have a fresh chicken & salad sandwich - it repeated on me for hours UNTIL DH called my mum at about 10pm asking her to bring HJ's in cause he was hungry (No dinner poor pet) well then the chicken stopped repeating on me because the flame grilled smell + onions just made me SPEW! And I was so grateful DH had given mum an excuse to come in (I REALLY REALLY REALLY hadn't wanted her in, gave her #1to look after to try and assure she wouldn't!) because she became the monitor nazi saying encouraging things like "Here comes another one, can you feel that?" and "Oh, I think the baby is asleep it's not moving much" AHHHH! Talk about perfomance anxiety
My DH had the b@lls to answer his cellphone - i coulda killed him. Turned out it was my sister calling, that's why he answered it. I growled at him really bad - and my sister still gives me heaps about it 'cos she could hear me telling him off. Even the midwife thought he was pretty b@llsy by answering it. I was 11 hours in to a 12 hour labour, so i was pretty grumpy and tired at that stage!