With DD I was bombarded by people, so much so my MIL walked into birth suite, pushing past the middies to grab my newborn baby! Of course she was being nice and smiling like her usual crazy self so people felt awkward stopping her I guess? Worst part was I was being stitched up, and she got herself a big look!
A year later, with DS, I was adamant it weren't going to happen again! They rang on the morning he was born to see if I was ok, because they knew my mum was watching DD overnight all of a sudden, and DP confessed that DS had been born 2 hours earlier than the phone call. Within 20minutes I had a family load of people surrounding me. I self discharged 6 hours after DS was born, and only my mum knew, because she was watching DD again. It all sounds so sneaky, but it was really necessary. DP's MIL just does what she wants, and people just follow instead of saying otherwise
Wish me luck for this one