We had an antenatal class last week and were asked to write down a word or phrase to describe labour and birth. We then had to swap paper with the others, so that noone knew what each other had written. On the way home I asked DH what he had written and he wouldn't tell me! After a lot of prompting, I guessed that he had written "squeamish".

During the antenatal classes, this was made light of a bit and the midwife said that she hadn't had any blokes faint during labour and birth, but had done in the classroom! But, I do think this could be a problem for my DH. He is not good with blood, or anything like that and faints when having needles.

He has asked why would he want to see me in pain and I don't think he is going to be as much of a support as I had hoped.

I only want him around as my support (no other family or a doula) and am confident that my midwife will be able to help me through and that I can do enough by myself. It's just that I would really like him to be able to enjoy the journey to birth and not have it be an horrific event for him- I want him to be able to remember it as something special.

I am going to bring it up at my next antenatal appointment. He doesn't want to talk about it with me much and I'm not sure what else I can do??