With DD i was on constant monitoring and there fore no one would allow me to move off my back the whole time. Only time i was allowed to move was when i needed to use the bathroom. I asked to sit up and they said no, again only time i was allowed to sit up was when i was pushing. I thought at the time this was fine (even tho i had great plans to move around, try different positions etc....but wasnt to be).

In the end i needed a vac extraction cos Chels wouldnt come out and i got a 2nd degree tear as a result. When i had my 12 week appointment for M2 at the hospital i was speaking to the midwife about it and she said i tore because i was on my back the whole time.. and gravity couldnt help... which all makes sense to me. She also told me not to let the midwifes or dr's labour that way again?

So in saying that..... what positions are the best? and how would i go about saying 'No i dont wanna be on my back again, i wanna choose my positions'.....if i once again get monitored....

I guess im worried ill tear again and i want this time to go close to plan as possible. I know its not always going to be that way.... but i worked hard on my last birth plan and in the end i got nothing i wanted at all.