thanks everyone
i feel abit better now, i had to put the computer down and walk away for a while .. lol..
the last 2 feeds i fed her for 15 mins each side, made a formula bottle and she spat it out. i dont actually think she drank any. i then expressed and had hardly anything left in my boobs, so at least i know she drained them.
she hasnt woken up hungry either - still getting woken up at feeding time so again, at least i know shes not hungry.
i am doing the right thing for my daughter, i need to believe in myself a bit more.