DS1 was bfed til 12 months at which point he weaned himself....
I had expected DS2 to wean himself at some pt but it isnt happening and I think it is time. I have been working 4 days per week since he was 8 months (expressing til 12 months) and I dont think I can keep bf. I also think it is going to be better for him to wean for a few reasons.
He doesnt feed to sleep anymore and he hyas no bottles (lots of milk and water from a cup). He has a bfeed around 3-5am when he wakes - this used to settle him straight back to sleep but now i find i need to settle him after it. If I am around he tries to feed at other times - usually after an absence (so when he first sees me after a sleep or after work or when i have not been w him ie if his dad gets up with him in the morning). It feels more like a bonding thing now than anything to do w hunger/thirst. DH sees it is also a way for DS2 to get some 'control' over me, as he will demand a feed when DS1 is getting all my attention or I am busy...
So... anyone got tips? I want it to be gentle. i actually thgink he wont sleep through til the feeds stop (he never has and wakes up a few times each night). I am tired and havung just come back froma holiday which got me in a much better frame of mind i need to keep myself on some sort of even keel w sleep/rfest, exerciuse etc and this will help me. i struggled a lot the last 6 months.
I have been using the 'boobies are sleeping' line - which worked for a few times - now when i say it he tries to wake them up. i goive him a cup of milk when he asks and that sometime works... he wont just have a cuddle at that point and he gets quite upset.
interested in opinions (even if you think i shouldnt wean) and pointers (if you think i should). I am so thrilled we are still feeding at 18.5 months!
TIA.

ps sorry for spelling - at work and wanted to ask q but no time to fix it!!