Phoebe has been enjoying solids for a few weeks now. We have built up to three meals a day, eaten at the table with us. She loves feeding herself although enjoys avocado and on a couple of occasions yoghurt, from the spoon. I don't think she eats too much solids, but I think that's probably part of my question.
I introduced a bottle or cup of artificial milk in the afternoon (1 per day, of which she only ever drinks about 50-80ml). The rest of the day she is breastfed on demand, usually one feed either side of her naps and a couple overnight. So, say, around 6-8 feeds in 24 hours, the biggest ones being overnight feeds and first morning feed, although sometimes on thirsty days she does drink what seems like a lot.
The night before last she refused the breast. I tried a few times over the course of an hour, and inbetween we cuddled and I tried to play with her and sing quietly to her, the house was dark, but she continued to be very distressed. I even gave her panadol because I thought she must be in pain. After the hour, I suddenly realised that it may be a bottle issue, so in my desperation I prepared and gave her a bottle. She drank 80ml and went straight off to sleep. This happened again at 4:30am. She refused both bottle and breast at 7am and made it very clear she wanted her solid breakfast. For the rest of the day she breastfed as normal and I reduced the amount of solids I gave her and I didn't give her the afternoon bottle. But the same thing happened last night at 9:30pm, 12am and 4am. Each time she drank 50-80ml. This morning at 7am she refused breast and bottle and was extremely irritable until I gave her solid breakfast. She just had a breastfeed before bed though and she is now asleep.
Here are my questions:
1. She never drinks more than 80ml of a bottle - do other FF babies do this at this age?
2. Should I restrict her solids so that she'll drink more milk (either BM, EBM or AM, I don't mind), or just let her eat as much as she wants?
3. Has anyone else's kid showed a distinct preference for bottles in the night and happily BF during the day? How long is this sustainable? (I am sure my supply will be affected and therefore she'll probably want the bottle all the time.)
4. Am I doing the right thing by following her lead, or should I try to encourage her into more of a routine, particularly if she may wean?
My questions are probably more related to my lack of knowledge of bottlefeeding... Is it ok to offer small FF's more frequently (on demand)?

I really hope this makes sense... I am just all over the place atm.