The sterilizing is not something you have to do every time - just rinse your pump with cold water and put it in the fridge. Then once a day give it a hot wash and a sterilize if you want to.

Distract yourself with a book or CD or something - a watched bottle never fills!

Do you have the correctly sized snozzle for your nipple - you can get bigger snozzle-bits for bigger nipples.

Lactation consultants are found at some hospitals and maternal and child health centres. There are also some in private practise, who will come to you for a fee. The ABA helpline might also be useful.

On the bright side, the pumping (even it it doesn't make much come out), will add to your milk supply.