Sally - I know exactly how you feel... DD is 13+1 weeks today (corrected 7+2 weeks) - apparently that means she now has recieved all the 'goodness' from me now and needs to be fattened up by formula - argh argh argh argh argh argh argh.

I am like you - I worked darn hard when DD was born at 34+1 weeks to ensure she had as little formula as possible. My milk came in at day 4 and prior to that she was having colostrum via the tube and then top ups of formula... I expressed like a woman possessed to bring my milk in and to have all of her tube feeds of EBM. I drove up and down from the hospital to make sure she had as many feeds from me as possible - even just to be there whilst she had a tube feed. I didn't put all that effort in then to just stop because they think she has had enough BM.

I have gone over the WHO guidelines since DD was born... I have explained how BM is beneficial to term babies but super beneficial to prems. I think a brick wall may have taken more in .

You are a treasure and most certainly doing such a wonderful job!

ETA: I have also had the "we could help if DD wasn't breastfed" - my response was there are many other ways to help not all of them have to have direct contact with the baby... here is my washing pile!!