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I know the feeling, i wanted to go back to the womens with Anneliese, but she went to the childrens too...
did you stay with her when she had to go back? I was breastfeeding and pumping so I asked to stay and we were bottle feeding with expressed milk over night so when I asked for a bottle around 10pm that night she started in at me saying she thought I was breastfeeding and thats why I was ALLOWED to stay.. Isaac was only 7 weeks old I wasn't going to be leaving him there without myself or my husband. She was not nice thats for sure and made it seem like a huge chore to get the bottle ready for me.. We weren't allowed to do it ourselves *roll eyes*
I couldnt stay with Anneliese when she went back as she was in the ICU and NICU and only patients can stay in there. When she went back into the ward, i had 2 boys i had to be at home with, so i didnt get to stay with her. I only stay in the hospital when my 3yo has asthma attacks, as otherwise he gets too scared.
Nic, why did Isaac go back in?? Anneliese started with bronchiolitis and apnoea, then got pneumonia.
Isaac went back due to more seizure activity and a few more breathing episodes and he used to choke in his sleep.. After 2 nights we were given some thinckener to put in his bottles of EBM and he never looked back.. He was on anti seizure medication till 5.5 months and then he was fine..
:hello: hi all I had a c-sect 5 weeks ago ad just found this thread as I was checking out what Nic was up too, :) BTW she's my sister so I'm not stalking her :p
hey Rach :)
Welcome Rach :)
I'm soooo glad I found this thread. It has made me feel better to read that other people have had similar experiences with C-sections.
My last was 8 years ago, and the memory of it stills haunts me, and has made me anxious about the one I'm having this time round. I went into labour with Nathan at 36weeks while his dad was on night shift, and I was in complete denial - he was booked in for elective c-section at 38 weeks, so I was no - this is happening now. Up until 4.30am, when I finally rang my mum, I paced around the house in pain...wondering if this was labour! (I hadn't experienced itwith my first, so I had no point of reference) She arrived 15 mins later, asking me about the pain, and she was pretty sure I was in labour, so I rang the hospital, and they told me to come in - only problem was that "the father" wasn't home from work yet. So I rang him - for him to say well I finish in an hour (6.00am) so will be home by 7.00am! (if you haven't figured it out yet - we are no longer together!) Got to the hospital finally about 7.30am - I'm still in denial though and have apologised all the way to the hospital. but thats another story... Was examined by the m/w - and yes was in labour - but only dilated 1cm. They gave my pethadine, and would be back in 4 hours to see if it had stopped it. It didn't. they examined me again - and I had dilated to 3 cm. I had been telling them that I had lots of scar pain from my previous c-section, both when I arrived, and at my previous antenatal visit 3 days before. because things hadn't stopped, and I was still in significant pain, they were concerend about placenta abruption they took me to theatre (had a spinal block - isn't that fun when you are in labour???? bend forward - tell me when your having a contraction - stay still...far out)
From once they decided to go ahead to when Nathan arrived it all happen so fast. I saw him for a couple of minutes, then they took him to special care, and me to recovery. While I was in recovery, his dad came and told me that he had gone into respiratory distress, and was on oxygen in a humidicrib. The midwifes in Special care had taken a polaroid of him for me. after two hours in recovery, I was taken to the ward, and all I wanted to do was see my little boy. well the midwife assigned to look after me couldn't have organised a P*** up in a pub! when I asked to be taken down to special care I was told she was too busy, and that there were no wards men availabe to wheel the bed down. I still hadn't got sensation back in my legs - otherwise there would have been no stopping me. I was drugged to the eyeballs, distressed that I couldn't see my son, who when I had seen briefly was fine, and now my little girl was coming into meet her baby brother, and I wasn't going to even be able to witness that. Then a SC midwife came in and told me that Nat's blood sugar was dropping and that they needed to feed him. Well I was breastfeeding. I had no problems with my daughter and I had every intention of doing it again. So I told her that. She said that I wouldn't have enough yet to give him, that they needed to give him formula. I told her that what ever I could get off my breasts they could mix in with the formula, I was starting the process now. (I think by this stage I was feeling extremely agaitated, and sick of being pushed around by other people) I still hadn't seen nathan, and was holding on tight to that photo! The midwife proceeded to tell me that in China, women don't even worry about giving their babies the colostrum... well I'm not in china!! So I won that small battle, and expressed off the colostrum, and at least knew that my supply had been started to be stimulated.
10 hours later, Nathan was brought to me for his first feed with me, and my first cuddle. He has a nasal gastric tube in. It was about 12.30am, I was extremely tired, and emotional, and distressed, and overwhelmed. By early the next morning, there was no stopping me! as soon as they would let me out of bed, I was up and in the shower, and down to the SCU, and stayed there most of time, until they let him come with me to my room.
When I booked into have this bub, I was pleased to see that the protocol had changed from when I had Nathan (it is the same hospital), and that babies go with their mothers unless they have something wrong with them, to recovery, and that they are given the opportunity to feed within the first half hour of being born. So up until I was 28 weeks my angst and anxiety about the birth was allievated. But I have developed Gestational Diabetes during this pregnancy, so everything changes. The little man will go straight to SCU, to have blood sugar level monitored, but I won't be in recovery as long (unless there is excessive bleeding they don't keep you in as long now apparently) plus my DH will not let anyone NOT let me see the little man. He'll take me there himself if he has too! So while it isn't what I had hoped for - it will be better then it was last time. Initially when I found out what the protocol for this hospital was for babies born with GD mums, I was disappointed. A very good friend of mine works at a Royal Womens in Brisbane, and their protocol is very different. but knowing that DH will be with the little man, and that he will be far more insistent and supportive then my previous partner has allied some of my fears. And in the end, as long as we are both ok that's all that matters.
Sorry this is so long, I needed to get it off my chest. Thanks :)
vicky I am so sorry you experience with Nathan was so bad :hugs:
ok question for you girls I am not bf and am wondering when should AF look like making a appearance ??? any ideas
i am bf, and i just had my first af since bub, and i t was just abit heavier than usual. HTH somehow :)
I'm not b/f'ing Rach and for memory with Gem AF returned 7 weeks after I stopped bleeding after the c/s. Everybody is different though so its hard to tell when AF will return!
kirsty, your ticker pic is gorgeous, how's Gemma going with Jasmine?
I'm not breast feeding rach and i got my back when my DD was 6 weeks old...i stopped postpartum bleeding at 3 weeks.
It was quite a bit heavier though. HTH
thanks girls I had pretty much no post partum bleeding more a bit of spotting for 2-3 days then a moment of spotting at 9 days after *blush* a moment of passion LOL and Jack is 6 weeks today
wow Vicky {{hugs}} I hope this time goes smoother for you. I now how scarey things can get, I had the ceaser from hell last time, my spinal wore off when they started stiching, I was in agony, they ended up putting me under (they said they would of kept going but I was so tense they couldn't get my bowel back in..) despite that I had a fast recovery. I've had 3 ceasers and I didn't get to see any of my babies while in recovery, I was too out of it to worry about it at the time anyway. I'm due for my fourth ceaser and it scares the **** out of me, but the baby has to come out, so I'm going to have to go through it again. This time I'm getting my tubes tied.
Has anyone had their tubes tied while having a ceaser or is going to get it done?
I've heard horror stories about getting them done, but I want this to be my last bub (well last ceaser so that's how it has to be)
take care all....
Hi ladies
On the issue of BF in theatre & having baby in recovery with you, who do you discuss this with - long time beforehand? I'm doing shared care and won't be seeing an OB until after 20 weeks (public hospital) so where and when do I have this conversation about policies etc??
I would think this is more up to the midwives than the OB, but if I'm only seeing my GP and then the OB when will I get that contact???
Maybe you should ring your hospital and ask for advice. They might have policies in place that only allow you to have your baby with you if you have a midwife present. I know that Brooke has hired a privte midwife to ensure that she has her baby with her in recovery.
Hi All,
It has been a long time since we have posted a message on Belly Belly, though regularly check in. I will describe our current situation:
Our 2nd child is due in 2 -3 weeks. Our firstborn, Kristanna, came on time with a birth weight of 10lbs 7 (nothing abnormal, just a big baby) and was delivered by Caesarean as she was too big to fit out naturally.
We just had an Ultrasound last Friday, as the doctors are concerned that #2 will be a big baby too, and if so they are thinking of either inducing or an elective caesarean.
Our question... If an elective caesarean is decided upon, when are they normally done? IE will it be a few weeks or a few days before the due date??
Regards
Mark & Jess (And Kristanna)
Mark, generally they will do the c section around 38 weeks or so.
Hoping all goes well with the upcoming birth of your new little bubba :)
Hi everyone...
I learned this week that I will have to have a caesarean birth after it was discovered that my baby has gastroschisis at my 18 week scan. I'm now faced not only with the prospect of my own surgery (the only time I have been in hospital was when I was born!) but the surgery on my beautiful precious baby immediatly after birth.
I am really sad that I will not be able to hold and feed my baby until who knows when??
I'm off to John Hunter Hospital tomorrow in Newcastle to meet with the doctors and surgeons.
:hugs: August_moon_mummy hope all is AOK, I think there was a baby on saving babies with something similiar
hope all is ok
Thanks so much Rach. The trip to newcastle yesterday went well and I was told by the doctor that I'd assumed wrong about the C-S as I will be induced! Very surprised but very happy! I will be preparing myself either way though, and I will be induced at 37 weeks as damage to the organs on the outside is said to get worse from then on in.
Yes there was a gastroschisis baby on saving babies, it was the first show and only one I've seen. It put me at ease immediatly having seen it as Issac is beautiful and healthy.
Thank you so much for your support. :heartbeat:
The doctor I'm now seeing was going to book the ceaser date at the last appoinment, but didn't because he said I was 5kg's of his highest weight for him to do the caeser (I think he's given up on me) I'm 115kg and his cut off is 120kg, yikes. If I don't stay under that I'll have to go to the hospital which is an hour away from here. I'm now 23 weeks so I'm not sure I can gain less then 5 kg's, it would be nice if I was to put nothing else on but no doubt I will. (I've had 3 babies over 10 pounds as well, that will nearly be the 5 kg's lol)
Anyway, I was just wondering if anyone else has been in this situation and what was the outcome?
Thanks.
I had a ceza 3 years ago with my first baby,one week before I was due she hadnt dropped at all she was still sitting up under my ribs...I have been told by some doctors that it was just one of those things that happen and other doctors told me that its because my pelvis is too small to for a bub to fit through and that chances are ill probly have another ceza..Im nearly 11 wks pg and I really dont want to have another ceza.although i didnt have any probs with first one but i would just like to experience a natural birth(as silly as that may sound) lol. I will be very upset if i have to have another one,has this happened to anyone else??
Hi Fellow C/Sectioners
I am 31 weeks pregnant with bub #2. I had a c/s with my son 5 years ago because he was transverse lie. I have chosen to have another c/s as my first experience was great. I was up the next day and took care of my son the whole time i was in hospital, so i was very lucky and hope this c/s will be the same. Sometimes i don't just get how some females are disappointed to find out that they will have to have a c/s ??
As i said it's been 5 years since my c/s and just have a general question as i have forgotten how long (if any) there was vaginal bleeding after the c/s. I can remember that i had slight bleeding but not to the extent that i needed a thick maternity pad or anything. Is this the case? I need to pack my hospital bags and buy pads but just can't remember which ones i'll need. Can someone help me out on this please?
One thing that i am not looking forward to re: the c/s is the insertion of the catheter. I am absolutely loathing it.
Take care all.
hi there, im coming up to 4 weeks and still have light pinky discharge, i only used maternity super dooper pads for the first few days, once i got home i just used and am using normal ultra thins!! Am hoping it will stop altogether very soon!!!!! Good luck with it all!!!!
I still used the maternit pads for a few days then I went to the normal ones.. and just used light flow ones for home. I also used tampons after a couple weeks..
I had to use heavy duty surfboard pads for 2 weeks after mine.... Then regular pads for another 4 weeks.
Hello, I'm new to the whole CS thing, just wanted to pop in and say good luck to all the other ladies (like me) with a CS on the horizon.
Sehra, just wanted to point out that the catheter is not unique to CSs - I had two done in full labour agony (!) Maybe it won't be as uncomfortable this time as last time. :)
Sehra,
I had my second CS 8 weeks ago and the whole catheter thing was fine. They inserted it after the spinal had been done. I therefore didnt feel a thing. Opt for this and then you have nothing to worry about.
I used maternity ones in hopsital but was on freshness liners by day 6
Hey guys
Sorry to gatecrash this thread....but just didn't know where to put my post...I hope I'm in the right spot...
Just wanted to write a bit of a debrief after our antenatal class last night (it was on assisted births)...it was so distressing...I came out sobbing for the next few hours...
Firstly...some history...
I've been told by my Ob. that I will probably need to have a c-section due to some uterine surgery I have had previously...the surgery I had at the time, was very new, and there isn't much research about the ongoing effects on pregnancy and birth...except that there is about a 70% c-section rate following the surgery due to the risk of uterine rupture...
Anyway...I was devastated to find out that I might have a c-section (not because I'm anti c-section...it's just not what I was wanting) and have had to work really hard to get my head and heart around the disappointment...but felt I was sort of getting there...until last night!
Last night's class was on assisted deliveries (e.g. inductions, epidurals, forceps, c-sections, etc.). We had a new midwife, who initially was very funny and entertaining...but it was clear after a while where she stood on things...
It was clear that she was very pro-induction and very pro-epidural...apparently the hospital I'm at, has a 98% epidural rate...
Anyway...she asked if anyone was going to have a c-section. I said 'possibly' and was the only one out of about 20 women in the class who answered...she then went onto to talk about the c-section rate at the hospital (about 50%, I think!). Everyone was taken back...and one girl asked "why is it so high?", and the midwife's first answer was "well...basically we went through a stage where mums were too posh to push!"...she never fully clarified that elective c-sections are not just for "social" reasons (her words!)...and basically rushed over the fact that many c-sections are medically recommended...
I felt so deflated...in a room full of 40 people, I felt I was being judged...
The midwife went on to explain the c-section procedure...and basically couldn't have been more flippant if she tried...I was doing everything to try not to burst into tears...
She was describing the hats you need to wear, adding "I just think they make you wear them so you look silly"...and so on...I won't go into all the details but I just felt so humiliated...people were laughing at the jokes she was making about the stockings you need to wear, the 'boiler suits' that DH wears and the fact they strap you onto the table..."it's not really because they want you to stop running away...it's more that the table is on a slant", she said...
When I asked about the recovery, I felt dismissed as if it was a stupid question...
After she finished her blurb on c-sections, she looked at me and said "you still wanna have one?"
I said "it's not me who wants one...it's my doctor!"...and she just ignored it...
I asked about birth plans and basically she patronisingly said "if it makes you feel better...then have one"...what????
Basically, by the end of the night, I felt so alone. My DH was wonderful...but I just felt so unsupported...
I'm really scared about a c-section and feel like I haven't had a choice in it...I understand that I probably need to have one for my baby's and my health...and I thought that midwives would understand that...
In the end she said something like "if you don't have the birth that you're happy with, it's probably because you made the wrong choices"...
WHAT????
Everyone else was laughing and having fun...and I just felt ashamed...
Sorry this has been so long...thanks for taking the time to read it...
Oh Monnie.. I am sooo sorry you had that reaction... that is just horrid...
I would be totally making a complaint about that... She sounds like a witch...
I would say a majority of c-sects are not what the mum wants..... & if it is... so what... i would have told her where to go grrrr...... 40 ppl in the room or not... she needs a good talking to..... tell me her name & I will fly over & sort the witch out
ETA... I was not strapped to the table either... I did have to wear the stockings (there is a history of blood clots in my family though) & you couldnt see them under my trackies & they kept my legs warm LOL...
DH was dressed like the surgeons.. I was a bit worried when he asked for gloves to... eh oh... hehehe... but luckily for me he was only allowed to watch the op & not help!!!
Oh Monnie! What an awful experience! I agree with Mitch - I would also be making a complaint.
The classes run by my hospital didn't even include c-sect - you had to go to a seperate session on those! During our session, the midwife actually said that she wasn't going to discuss a c-sect because none of us would ever need one! Yes - you read correctly! Guess what - I had an emergency c-sect! Talk about setting women up for a fall :rolleyes:
I believe her jokes to be totally inappropriate! If it makes you feel better - I was not strapped to the table. The hats are an infection control thing, I didn't have to wear those stockings, and DH did not wear a boiler suit! The stockings will depend on your surgeon (they don't all make you wear them and it will depend on if you are considered a high risk for DVT's), and the boiler suit is dependent on the surgical attire and protocol the hospital has in place. Some have this "rule" where only the male surgeons wear the boiler suits! My DH wore typical scrub pants and top.
I'm glad you stood your ground and made it clear it was your Ob requesting the c-sect. You have no reason to be ashamed and the mid is wrong to place judgement - espeically in such a public forum! I really would consider placing a complaint about her - you don't have to do it now, you can wait until after you have had your baby if you wish.
Huge hugs to you!
MG
Aww Monnie :hug: That's just disgraceful IMO & she should be reported. Whether you wanted a c/s or not, she should never ever have made you feel ashamed. That's just so wrong. If you're interested in what actually happens with a c/s, have a look at this article on the main BB site. My story is in there, last one ;) It's a much nicer read than what you had to deal with last night.
ETA: No stockings here either! I'm not sure what a boiler suit is :redface: but Aaron just had to wear blue nurse/doctor type pants & top.
monnie thats totally unacceptable. Personally if I were you and you were able to I would change hospitals.. A complaint would most definetly be made as well. c.s can be just as relaxing as a natural delivery. there are plenty of threads on here about how others have gone. :hug:
I only had to wear stockings with my 2nd delivery no idea why and actually they kept my legs warm :) and I have never been strapped to the bed.. Also a cap is nice cus it kept my head warm :)
:hugs: same here was not strapped down well not that I remember :lol: Jase wore his own clothes and had a cap and slipper things on, I had to wear stockings well I wasn't told I had too till it was too late, I had swelling which may have been controlled by wearing the stocking for a while OH well
anyway I would be putting in a complaint, I was not too posh to push, but I was having a elective c-sect (dr reason) which ended being a induction followed by emergency c-sect, I will be having a elective next time
grrrrrrrrrr I would have stood up said what I thought and walked out
Rach: Jack looks cold in that water ;) might update your ticker picture.. one of the pics you sent me today would go nicely.. where he is all rugged up and warm
ok bossy miss :lol:
I will update later just to please his aunty Nic :lol:
Hi All,
Thanks for the info re: bleeding after c/s. I will go and get some maternity pads and also regular ones too. I am not a heavy bleeder (when i had my periods), so i'll get some of both.
Re: the catheter. I will ask for the catheter to be inserted after the epidural. The reason i am just so chicken about the cathether is that i suffered severe UTI's for about 2 years before having an operation (which cured it) and am absolutely frightened about anything having to do with my bladder and me getting another UTI. I'll try and be braver this time around.
Monnie- I can't believe that midwife! Midwifes are there to care for us, not humiliate us for whichever birth option we choose or a recommended to have. So, if i was you, like all the other girls suggested i too would put in a complaint with the hospital. She has no right. I am so furiated! I too, was not strapped or had to wear stockings and can't remember my mum (who came into the op theatre) having to wear a suit. Even if all the above had to happen, it is for health reasons, not for entertainment.
Trust us Monnie, you will be fine, all will go alright, be optimistic. Hug and kisses.
Take care all.