To cut a long story short...

Sons father never wanted me to go ahead with pregnancy, made some threats which lead me to get a full exemption from CL ie. I didn't pursue him for CS, as I got the exemption.

Fast forward to when son is 1 year old, and he decides that he want to be a somewhat part of his life. Won't sign BC. Doesnt' want to be pursued for maintenance. I hoped that he would come around eventually.

Son is now 3, and his father puts in a few hundred dollards every six months to a year for his swimming. I had thought by now he would agree to regularly pay for him, but won't commit to it. After many attempts to encourage him, he made further threats about taking me to court to have custody of our son if I pursue him, and to make life difficult.

after these threats and many let downs, I have had enough. I no longer want anything from him, and certainly not his money because he thinks that i am after him for money. But he just put another $300 in my account last week, he did that 6 months ago too. I would prefer to go without than to have money given to us cause then he expects things.

What I am concerned about though because I have an exemption, is taking this money from his going to get me in trouble? Because when I signed the Stat Dec back when son was a baby, the father wasn't involved and I was concerned about him trying to take son away from me if I push for maintenance.

The thing is - I still am. If not, I am more afraid, because he has the money and the moment I put him in to CSA, he will make life difficult for me and my son. He has the attitude - I want to see what I pay for. He lives 6 hours away mind you.

Can anyone help me please?