DS is now 7, in December last year he finished the assessments and we were told he meets all of the criteria for ADHD. He's been progressively getting worse with his behaviour over the past 8 months to the point that us (hubby and myself) and the school are at a loss for what to do now.
I've asked his paed CDU team for a trial on medication but we can't do that until the paed reassesses him which may not be until May.
In the mean time yesterday he was suspended from school for yelling at the teacher multiple times and even throwing something at the teacher (yet again! happens at least once a week these days). Ironically he had a relief teacher yesterday, which he wasn't prepared for and she had no idea on what to do to prevent meltdowns and reactive behaviour (there was no communication between his regular teacher and the relief teacher or the other school staff and the relief teacher who are all aware of what to do when he reaches his explosive fight/flight point and how to prevent him reaching that point). He's suspended for 3 days and goes back to school on Wednesday next week. The school have suggested that we change things so that he only attends school for 2 hours every morning but that just isn't possible or workable for my family right now, there's no way we'd be able to collect him at 10:30am every morning and it would be far too disruptive and far too big a change in his routine for DS to only be going for those 2 hours.
We have a meeting between the paed CDU team, the school and ourselves on the 4th of March to plan out how Jaycen's schooling will move forward and what things to put in place to reduce the risk of him harming someone else or himself and just in general to make life/schooling easier for everyone.
I have no idea what I need to ask/insist on/request at the meeting - has anyone else been through this or can anyone give me some pointers towards things I can request/insist on/ask that I can write down so I've got everything organised for it? I'm out of my depth with this and I'm honestly really sick of banging my head against a brick wall trying to get the school to understand and listen to my concerns over his schooling and their treatment of him while there.

Thanks in advance.