My DS is now 7. Diagnosed with SPD and anxiety. He was seeing an OT to help him with the anxiety but the course finished. Lately when he has a meltdown he is becoming very aggressive/violent towards me. He will punch, kick and push me. I am not sure what to do in this situation. I calmly keep repeating that it is not acceptable and he is not allowed to hurt me, however he just ignores me and keeps right on yelling and laying into me. I never imagined that I would be that mother that gets hit by her own child This needs to stop. I don't see a good future for a child who relies on hitting the people closest to him for anger management and to deal with disappointment.

I have mentioned the violence to the family psych that I still see and she asked how I dealt with it but then we must have moved on to another topic because I don't remember her giving any advice of how to actually handle it. I won't be seeing her for a while so I am left wondering what the hell to do with this child. Today it was because I didn't let him lick the bowl after making muffins.