I took Bri for her post hospital check up yesterday. She was terrified. As soon as I told her we were going to the doc she started crying saying she wanted to go home.
She kept it up all the way over there.
When we got there, she got a bit more insistant, but the second we started heading into his office she really turned it on. She insisted on going to the toilet first, thinking that was the problem, like it was in hossy.
Then she threw herself down screaming on the floor coz she was so scared & really did not want to go in.
I'm worried about it. The doc assured me she'd have a pretty short term memory of it, & that he'd go easy on her for a while, but how do we get past it?
Any ideas?
I don't know if this will help, but maybe if you let her help bake you cookies and then take them to the kids that are in hossie. That way you take her to hospital without having her see a dr.
Don't know if this will work, but you can try. Tell her what you want to do, ask her if she would like to make the kids in hossie feel better. Reasure her that she is NOT going to see the dr, that she is there to make other kids happy. Maybe it work, maybe not. It might be a good idea to call the hossie and organise with a headnurse about a time out of visit hours so you don't disrupt the visitor. If you explain your situations, maybe they will bend the rules for you.
There are a couple of great storybooks about overcoming fears for young children. I wish I could remember their names as our school librarian only emailed us about them about a month ago. Can you try asking at your local library? Hth...
I was just thinking. If going to the hospital with cookies is not going to work, try a visit to your old-age home first (or even a kennel, if puppies is her thing). That way she knows what to expect when you say " giving cookies" and that it's not just a trick to get her to hossie, kwim??
Just quickly, for future reference, always make sure canulas are put in by a long time registered nurse, a pathologist or an anesthetist. ESPECIALLY when Dehydrated! Drs are a definite no-no. They usually get a nurse to do it so are pretty crap at it themselves. I have always insisted on one of those and they get the vein first time every time.
I have sat there before watching a dr butcher a canula insertion on my eldest son once and it was so horrific. I wanted to break his nose. He eventually sent in a nurse who spent more time trying to find a bit of arm that wasn't hacked up, bleeding and bruised by the doctor than she did putting the canula in.
With the fear, Harry hates hospitals and beds in hospitals or drs surgeries. Its a nightmare of a fight to get him to just sit on a bed even when there isnt a needle involved. I can't say she will ever forget it or ever become less afraid of needles. Really its the medicos that need to start approaching jabbing children in a different way rather than our kids being told to get over it. Hopefully with your doctor taking it easy on her it will make her less afraid to go. Harry is happy enough to go see Dr Lim or into the hospital now - but he refuses to get on the bed.
Help us get over her fear?
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